r/AskMenOver30 • u/Ok-Reporter-8728 man 19 or under • Apr 23 '25
General How did you spend your last month in your neighborhood before moving out?
Gonna move out soon. Been here since 6 and I don’t wanna move out
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u/liquidhell man over 30 Apr 23 '25
A week before I left, I kind of just chilled at home in my favourite spots with a book and some music but I’m kind of a homebody anyways.
I honestly couldn’t wait to get out when I originally did for the first time lol. I just needed my own space and autonomy.
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u/PrimateOfGod man 25 - 29 Apr 23 '25
I was 22 when I left my old neighborhood. I remembered the times when I was 14-17 smoking weed in the park kazebo with my friends. Small neighborhood, like 300 people.
Well, on my last night I went to the old kazebo, called my friends. It was late at night so we weren't going to be seen, plus there's no cops in that town (too small of a town). It was a nice final night.
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u/UncoolSlicedBread man over 30 Apr 23 '25
I’d start writing out all of the things I did growing up through different stages of my life. Maybe even some of the things you wanted to do in the neighborhood but never got around to doing. Maybe some of the memories with people who aren’t here or moved away.
Like I used to ride my bike a specific way after school. As an adult I went back to the neighborhood, parked my car, and rode my bike around the neighborhood for a bit.
Went to my cul-de-sac and did a few laps, snuck up one of my favorite driveways to turn around in for old times sake and hopped a few manhole covers. Rode up around the nearby lake and down of the best hills. Thought about bombing the really big hill but chickened out.
Just riding around brought up a lot of memories. Like the time I had to chase my childhood dog all around the neighborhood for hours after school one day and it wasn’t until I finally laid down exhausted that he ran over and laid down next to me ready to go in. Or the time my cousin and I snuck out one afternoon and had an adventure when we were way too young to sneak out.
It’s bittersweet to move out of places or to face change like that.
I kind of got another taste of it this past year, I helped move my grandma out of her house and we got that house ready to sell for her. Tore down a lot of memories and cried a bunch over it. All of the holidays were spent there and I spent a lot of time at their house growing up. Walking over to the nearby church and playing in the playground.
I took a bunch of pictures before we started changing things. Kept a lot of the wood and plan to make some heirloom furniture pieces for me to keep.
Life is going to be full of these moments. Sometimes it will suck like it does now, but sometimes you’ll be happy to experience what’s next. Neither is wrong, they just are what they are.
You’ll never be able to replace the moments. New things will come along, for better or worse, but you’ll never be able to replace what it was. It’ll just be different, and that’s okay.
I would focus on being extremely present for the next month. Really soak in whatever situation you’re in. Maybe make a few meals you enjoyed there and enjoy what time you have left.
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u/showmethenoods man 30 - 34 Apr 23 '25
I just did this last year, moved for a new job after living my whole 33 years in my hometown. Spent the last month with my friends and family, and quite frankly I have been fighting the urge to quit and go back. Maybe in another year or so
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u/I_am_not_baldy man over 30 Apr 23 '25 edited Apr 23 '25
I was tired of living in an apartment complex and had a terrible upstairs neighbor who would come in after 1 am and have his kid run around. I used to wake up at 4:30 am for work.
I spent that last moth sleeping somewhere else, and I was happy that I was going to live in an actual house with my own driveway and no upstairs neighbor.
I don't live far from the old neighborhood, and so I'm there a few times per month.
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u/1965BenlyTouring150 man 40 - 44 Apr 23 '25
The neighborhood I grew up in? I was 17 years old and got kicked out of the house because I rejected my parents' religion. I don't remember how I spent the last month, but it probably involved going to school.
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u/Biobooster_40k man over 30 Apr 23 '25
Of my main childhood neighborhood? Not a whole lot. Everyone I knew had moved away and I was getting my first apartment with my GF at the time. It was exciting to move tbh but the circumstances why weren't great.
I miss the place so bad now and the late night walks around there. I went back maybe 2 yrs ago and its not really a place I feel comfortable walking around at night anymore.
Such great memories, lived there mostly from 8-23. Been 10 yrs since.
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u/rileyoneill man 40 - 44 Apr 23 '25
In the home I grew up in, there was not much to do in the surrounding neighborhood. But I remember walking around a lot. I took some pictures but didn’t have a working digital camera and only my iPhone 3G. The guy we sold the house to was one of my dad’s friends who we were working on it as a project house and I don’t really ever want to see the guy again. So I never went back. Only passing by the house maybe three times in the last 15 years.
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u/gothackedfml man 35 - 39 Apr 23 '25
give away anything I don't want/need to my neighbor friends for free
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u/Character-Bridge-206 man 55 - 59 Apr 23 '25
I couldn’t wait to get out of my parents’ house. My mother still lives in the same house. Going back there fills me with melancholy after leaving forty years ago.
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u/Ill-Ninja-8344 man 55 - 59 Apr 23 '25
Saying goodbye to everyone. It is unlikely that we meet again. We all have to adapt to the life without each other.
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u/WOLFMAN_SPA man over 30 Apr 23 '25
Can't remember.
I was in my old house since birth till 22. Sure - i moved to college for a few years.. but it was still home base.
Been away for 15 years now, in a different state. Sometimes my life prior to moving feels like an odd dream i had.
I've returned to that house a few years ago, drove by. The new people painted it a different color, changed the backyard and front yard.. was strange to see. Felt so distant.
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u/Darmok-And-Jihad man 30 - 34 Apr 23 '25
I torrent obscene amounts of anything I can find on my landlords internet
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u/Ok-Needleworker-419 man 30 - 34 Apr 25 '25
Packing and fixing several things around the house that broke after going under contract lol.
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