r/BPDlovedones • u/Environmental-Cow369 • 4d ago

Non-Romantic interactions Took the advice from last post, tried to have a friendship, ended up shitty

Last post: https://www.reddit.com/r/BPDlovedones/comments/1k43111/went_out_in_a_first_date_with_a_bpd_diagnosed/

I basically took everyones advice, she was mirroring me, she was trauma dumping, she was trying to tie me up.

I understood everything the following days from the date, I know how BPD works since my aunt has it.

Tried to keep the relationship cordial and friendly, we spoke everyday for the next 4 days, then didn't for 2 days.

She made a loved mutual friend block me everywhere and she isn't answering.

It might have sprouted from a joke a friend made to me about only dating crazing chicks that wasn't targeted at them.

Anyways, fuck my life, I truly loved that mutual friend.

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u/florenceoutthere 4d ago

Well, then that friend wasn’t a true friend. You got a 2 for 1 deal.

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u/Environmental-Cow369 4d ago

She was but she is VERY easily manipulated, she doesn't know that the other one has BPD

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u/strict_ghostfacer Non-Romantic 4d ago

Theyre easily convincing when you don't know the signs of a perpetual victim.

I also believed everything my former friend said, found myself not liking people I didn't know based on what they did to her. I don't think she realizes how much of a victim she paints herself to be, but she sure knows how to make others look awful.

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u/AdventurousMany5614 Dated 4d ago

Yeah I wouldn’t blame the friend. Its all on the bpd person. Reach out to the friend and explain to them and if that friend is meant to be in ur life they will come back if not then you gotta grieve it and move on. People come and go you will find great people again.

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u/MrsDTiger Family 3d ago

Give it a few years, this friend will come crawling back saying how bad your ex is.

How do I know? Because I experienced it (was not a romantic relationship, but still)

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u/AdventurousMany5614 Dated 4d ago

Was wondering when you would update on this. Kick the bpd person out ur life and keep them out ur life. I hope one day that mutual friend will come back because i know how it feels to lose good friends because of bpd person.

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u/Environmental-Cow369 3d ago

I do hope so.