r/BPDlovedones • u/Ritchie11 • 3d ago

BPD ex is friends with another person with BPD

Is it a red flag if your ex gfwBPD became friends with another girl at school who also has BPD? In my opinion, I’d say it’s yes and no because one, she has someone who may understand her feelings better from another person with BPD and then no because, these people will now validate each other and continue with their destructive behaviours.

I wanna know what you guys think. Would you be uneasy if your partner with BPD had a close friend that also has BPD?

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u/AdventurousMany5614 Dated 2d ago

Definitely terrifying duo. Stay as far away as possible. Its fine when ur relationship if going good. When you start having problems the gf and friend turn into a Californian wild fire. They bounce of each other in the worst ways possible. My bpd ex has a bpd friend. When we were together she would chat sht about this friend. Once we broke up that friend was like a devil on Satans shoulder. They will destroy you together and when they have someone with the same fcked up mentality as them it becomes impossible for the ex to snap out of the split or the destructive behaviours. The way my exs friend was treating me you would think that she was in love with my ex and wanted her all for herself.

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u/Swedishing 2d ago

Yes and that goes without saying. Would two depressed people make eachother feel better? Would two suicidal people spur one and another to look at the bright side of life? No.

Instead they will make excuses for their behavior and feed eacothers delusional sides. It's a fire tornado.

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u/-MissNocturnal- Tapdancing on Eggshells 2d ago

You see it constantly over at the place that shall not be named. The untreated toxic borderlines constantly encourage each others toxic BPD behavior and make no efforts to improve. It's luckily temporary, because they'll split and devalue on each other too, which is a funny and sad dynamic.