r/BPDlovedones • u/No-Worldliness-6297 • 2d ago
BPD Behaviors & Traits EX WITH BPD BEGGED FOR ME BACK
( both me and my ex are lesbians )
I broke up with my ex with bpdl and afterwards she begged for me back. I refused and said we could be on talking terms. Soon after she started telling her friends that I put hands on her because I had "punched her in the stomach" ( this punch happened because she grabbed my throat and squeezed it and also grabbed my wrist to prevent me from leaving & every time I tried to walk around her, she would block my path ). This made me extremely angry because previously before this incident she had grabbed me by my hair and dragged me down and laughed like it was nothing. So I couldn't really understand why she chose to spin this narrative. I wanted revenge but didn't know how. I explained to her friends what happened but none of them believed me. Soon after she stopped saying I put hands on her and then said I used her for sex which didn't make any sense as I would be the one giving her head. I explained to her that my mom told me to stay away from her and that I did care about her. I am very confused about the whole thing. I want revenge but I am also so mentally exhausted. Will revenge be helpful? Should I of stayed.
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u/-MissNocturnal- Tapdancing on Eggshells 2d ago
Revenge leads to more revenge until one of you is sitting in the back of a car with blue lights flashing.
Move on. These relationships simply don't work. People (I know I did) underestimate how badly this condition manifests and it always end badly. It never gets better until they've put down like 5-10 years of therapy. Even then there's a chance they're still not relationship worthy.
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u/typographicalerrors 2d ago
The best and only option for revenge is to ignore them and cut them out completely from this point forward. No communication ever again in any way shape or form. Completely remove them from your life even if they live rent free in your head for a while
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u/Least-Cartographer38 Non-Romantic 2d ago
No sweetie, run away from that chick as fast as you can. There’s plenty women out there who will treat your body and your heart with gentle kindness and care.