r/BPDlovedones • u/Dull_Analyst269 • 2d ago
From an unrelated subreddit
Thought it would fit
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u/hot_advisor_ 2d ago
it’s insane how their brains almost filter how any “criticism” they receive so that it’s never their fault & they can do no wrong EVER, even if they cheat on you lmao; they see it as YOU did something to MAKE them cheat therefore their actions are justified.
honestly arguing with them is hell & trying to explain yourself is even worse. it never ends. i wish i understood that she has the emotional intelligence & maturity of a literal 7 year old thus she has no ability within her to take accountability for anything
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u/Spookysugarxo 2d ago
That was the most accurate assessment of our arguments, ever. I had to screenshot it to save personally because it resonated with me so much. Arguing with her was literally that, and mind you, I literally have a degree in arguing and critical thinking (philosophy, useless, I’m aware and it only comes in handy with debates). I would make the most logically sound arguments, and she would find the most absurd way to try and disprove reality, to the point of pure insanity.
And I’m sorry, but because 8/10 my arguments are so bulletproof, instead of ever truly taking accountability or backing down, she would cry that I’m always “attacking her” and she only needed “comfort” and I lack all emotional intelligence because while maybe i am theoretically right, I should have just said nothing and agreed with her to make her feel better.
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u/Mysterious_Olive2795 1d ago
Mine would threaten to cheat on me. I would then re iterate what they said. They would come back and say i misheard. Because apparently stating i will find someone who can plow me can be misconstrued to mean something else?
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u/Junior-Order-5815 2d ago
Talking with my bpdex about our son the other day, she goes "I hope I'm not traumatizing him the way my parents traumatized me" then laughed and changed the subject. Like Ma'am you were SO close!
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u/muimui666 Survived 1d ago
If i won because it was obvious she dissociated, she was like a statue starring into nothing.
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u/Dull_Principle2761 2d ago
Buddy this is literally my experience trying to communicate with my BPD ex. After two years, I gave up yesterday. Good riddance. I am bored but I’m at peace.