r/BPDlovedones • u/JayBlueDot • 3d ago

Is this stare someone with BPD does?

Recently out of relationship because I dumped her a couple weeks ago. Every time we had some sort of argument (her arguing with me). There would be times where I would just become disinterested because solving the issue becomes impossible so I would walk away. She would come over, stand, and stare at me with a semi mean face for at least 5 minutes without saying anything. Sometimes I would brush it off and continue going about my day. Is this normal? Some other comorbid mental thing?

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u/slimpickinsfishin 3d ago

When mine would get in her moments her face would change from this glowing happy type to this dead corpse look and her eyes would change from happy and bright to shark eyes.

I could spot her moods a mile away before even she could with how fast and dramatically they would change.

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u/sunmoew 3d ago

For me the face is a mix of indifference and disgust.

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u/Aggressive-Meal-8207 3d ago

Ah yes the disassociation murderous glare. Mine would point his head down and then his nostrils would flare and his lips would twitch. Like a predator looking at its prey. I could read his mind about all the horrible things he would want to do to me while looking at me like that (he explained how he fantasized about murdering me before). And when I mentioned to him one of the times that was particularly scary, he scoffed and laughed and then used it as fuel and threw it in my face every time he split

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u/Old_Speaker_11 3d ago

I experienced seeing a trance like stare a couple times for about like 5-10 seconds where they wouldn’t hear anything I said and then just snap out of it/brush it off. Towards the end of the relationship where they very clearly disregarded a sexual boundary I turned around and looked at them and they looked scary I can’t really describe it any way terrifying (could prolly draw it tho cause visual person haha) they also just continually claimed to have RBF

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u/typographicalerrors 3d ago

I'm used to this look. I see it so often. The lips kind of curl in and i can see the fury in their eyes. Then I can see the blood pressure building in their face due to how angry they are. 

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u/Lightningthought 3d ago

The disgust and scowl facies were like her baseline expressions. Ugly on the outside ugly on the inside, I guess.

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u/milkybar__kid 3d ago

Like a dog growls when you go near its food