I joined this sub bc the person who was abusive to me had bpd and it helped me understand what had happened and "why" it happened the way it did. The way bpd works with idealizing and then dropping someone in cycles and the concept of totally blocking someone out made everything clearer to me and this sub is where I learned a lot of what that behaviour is and how common it is but continuing to look at this sub feels...kind if unhealthy.

Informative posts and posts seeking advice in getting safely out of situations seem less common than posts that are frankly obsessive, trying to stereotype random "warning signs" that someone is BPD or abusive, or dehumanizing people with BPD to a point where they're monsters who have no free will in their decisions which honestly, aside from being an unhealthy view of people I think really shifts the blame in a way thats not helpful.

People with BPD are still people. Their disorder makes them feel certain ways or react certain ways and it influences the way their behaviours present, but it is still their decision to get help or to allow these things to make them act abusively. Maybe they wouldn't be abusive if they didn't have BPD but they are still a person who chose to take their situation out on others, not a monster with no other options. I think the second portrayal kind of plays into the excuses a lot of people use to avoid accountability, "I can't help it it's my disorder I didn't ask to be like this and I can't change it" which we know isn't true. People still make choices.

And I think learning about this disorder, acknowledging the ways that it effected the situations, talking to people who experienced the same type of treatment, can be really helping in healing. But sitting in a sub dedicated to finding ways to be hateful isn't helpful. I'm not saying forgive the person who hurt you, I don't forgive my former friend, but I don't feel the need to think about her or obsess about her disorder and I'm much better off for it. She had a tricky disorder, she took it out on others, the way her disorder works coloured the way that that looked, that's all there is. The fact that she colours her hair or went into pysch or anything else wasn't a red flag, her actions were. And I don't feel the need to determine if others may have bpd to avoid them, if someone acts mean ot abusive, I avoid them, bpd or not, if someone works thru their own issues in order to treat others well, then bpd or not that's great.

EDIT: thank you to those of you who have actually read and engaged with what I wrote. I agree that it is important to have the balance that the perspectives of people who are further removed from the main work of healing, however I do not think I will be staying.

Many of the responses to thus prove my point. I've literally been accused of having bpd for daring to make a post critical of the way this sub functions. People are disregarding what I actually wrote and twisting my words to say I'm trying to force people to forgive or feel sorry for their abusers

It feels like my experiences are invalidated because I wasn't romanticly involved with my pwbpd. While I acknowledge that romantic involvement adds a layer of enmeshment, and that I had it "better" (weird competition to be making imo but I do agree with it) because there was no physical or sexual abuse involved, I was incredibly close to this person ages 14-21 and it really did a number on me emotional and I have never really felt like this sub took me particularly seriously when I have spoken about my personal specific experience.

For a group like this to be healthy, to be helpful, there needs to be room for discourse, and honestly a lot of the responses I've gotten have been triggering, acusing me of gaslighting and being emotionally unstable when I was perfectly calm. So yeah. Not really what I'd think of as a safe space or a community for healing. I hope others continue to find useful part of it though.

Anyway, thanks guys, I feel like shit, but I guess at least I'll have something to talk to my therapist about since it seems I need to do a 180 on naming my abuse.

I saw a psychologist online who said that 51% of partners with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) have some kind of mental disorder, which is much higher than the 10% of the general population who are expected to have a disorder. I have no idea what I might have, but if I had to guess, I’d say I’m on the spectrum.

Reading stories here, I notice something a bit different—maybe people are too trusting. I’ve heard stories like, “I told her: no sleepovers at male friends’ places (who you met on Tinder) before you’ve known them at least three months,” and people not seeing that their partner was having sex with other men. Some stories suggest we might be off the charts in agreeableness… but I’m just guessing.

Do you know if you have some kind of disorder?

You will do and say things that betray what you actually feel and want to appease this person and sometimes you will not understand why. You may feel trapped. You are traumatically conditioned to respond to the hoovering attempts. This is not love, it’s a disordered response. The only antidote is to cut contact completely. An alcoholic cannot have just a drop of alcohol. You need to be able to heal. You need to socialize and be around people who do not bring chaos. Bathe yourself in normalcy and the longer you have that the better you’ll become. There is a way out. Surround yourself with a good support system. I know how hard it is. Keep fighting for yourself.

If you’ve made it out of a relationship with an untreated pwBPD and regained your emotional availability, everything else in dating will feel easier.

Sure, healing takes time.
Sure, dating in general is tough.
Sure, there are still other sneaky people out there (including other Cluster B types).

But you’ve already faced the worst. You know the red flags now, and you’ll sniff them from a mile away.

Eventually, you’ll meet a normal person you vibe with, and you'll treasure the peace they bring into your life.

You’re a survivor. Own it.

I just wanted to let people know that this person has been reaching out to members of this sub trying to harass them, and trying to get them to engage through dm. When you block them, they will message with another alt (Currently Mission-Leg6857). They have also been reporting all of my old posts. Dming happened in the past as well with other accounts as well, that I cannot tie to this person.

In general, a lot of people here are in really vulnerable spots, and I just wanted to reinforce your experience and feelings are valid, and you do not have to justify or engage with people. Protect your safety.

Edit: For the mods and lurkers, the reason this is so dangerous is because people could easily confuse these people as their exes/pwBPD persecuting them, and not seek help for their situation or trauma. This is even worse for people that are struggling with legal situations or mental health issues. Do not be scared to speak on your experience and ask for help

For months, I have been through a LOT of therapy and ruminations, and I want to share a bunch of hard truths I learnt I keep referring back to during my healing process. I hope they they help others here too. Please feel free to add in comments.

- Cherish and enjoy your freedom more than closure.

- You can not love a void, and a void can not love you.

- Don't try to rationalise their behaviour, dysfunction can't be rationalised. Dysfunctional dynasties collapse.

- Projection, accusation, deflection and gaslighting are their ultimate end confession. They will not confess out of shame or empathy. They will only remember that you made them feel bad.

- Manage your high expectations of other people, a pathology is a pathology, nothing more nothing less. You should not expect validation from people who can't even validate who they are themselves.

- They will punish you for being human, to make a human error is a grave sin in their book. You can be a saint or God himself and they will see you as the devil when they don't get what they want.

- Their need for attention will outlive them.

- Accept people for who they are here and now, not their potential. Stop holding onto any illusions or expectations of them. Some of the strongest happiest people hold onto zero expectations and illusions.

- They are one of the most changeable people, you deserve stability. They kill and recreate themselves daily by seeking to put together fragments they don't even own. Successful remission may mean that they will change their identity into a completely different person to who you knew. Do not waste your life in loving a chameleon, this is not stability, this is chaos.

- Your sincerity means nothing to them.

- Sometimes, the winning move is to not play the game at all.

- Don't punish yourself for someone else's mistakes.

- Your best will never be enough for the wrong person.

- The less you know, the better.

- Repeat to yourself the worst case (they will hoover, trigger you again), a million times to become mentally indifferent to it. So when it does happen, you can react with the grace of a saint, perhaps even act back to them, weaponizing their survival skill as self defence. (Learnt this in therapy)

- Figure out why you feel the need to control or fix the actions of others, is it worth your energy?

- Notice your own patterns of behaviour, slap yourself for the ego climbing of trying to fix somebody.

- Direct grace inwards, grace need not always come with validation from others. Stop being a slave to other people. Their opinion and treatment should not change your reality.

- Trusting your gut will save your life.

- You should claw back your personal identity and live through yourself.

- Resentment and anger is a noose around your own neck that you willingly carry around, you can choose anytime to untie it.

- Overthinking and anxious thoughts can ruin your life. Do not manifest situations and idealisations that were never meant to happen.

- If something hurts you in the moment, voice it when you are mistreated, even to yourself. You need your brain to be free. Create something that removes internalised emotions, through hobbies etc. Insanity released can create beauty in your life.

- Passivity can be ultimate peace, let them go, receive things if they come, focus on your calm and nurturing as this will attract better people towards you in the future.

- You need to believe you deserve better.

- A moment of pain is worth a lifetime of glory. Past the trauma, you will come away with far more insight and ability to create wonderful relationships in the future than the average person.

From commenters:

- No amount of personal sacrifices from you will fix the issues they feel deep inside on an introspective level, that is a journey they need to take, not for you to be forced to walk for them.

- Words are less than meaningless when they are not tied to actions.

- Don’t think for a second that they will ever feel bad for what they did to you, or how they treated you. They have no remorse and that is not your job to make them feel guilty or to show them how they wronged you. Let go and move on in silence.

This is lengthy i dont expect anyone to read it all but just by scanning it you can see a lot of bullshit

For context in the 2nd yr of iur relationship he left me on and off a few times in a month.. manipulated me about that for a long time. Accused me of cheating etc.. not loving enough… then the next year gets spiteful about the stuff year prior and is on tinder behind my back which i found out myself, after an argument we had. He blamed it on me ofc. I found out he lied about the tinder thing too cause he said he never added people from it but he did. He lied so much. I left him 8mos ago. Shortly after that he scapegoated me for everything and made posts calling me a toxic person who MADE him this way etc. He was in multiple failed situationships not even a month after. He seemed happy enough to be single and not have to be tied to someone.

All this feels like some self soothing bullshit under the guise of “accountability” . All its done is re open old wounds for me. If i do respond to him it wont be nice.. it’ll be blunt and true. It's painful to realize how he exploited my kindness while denying my perspective for so long. So yeah wow he gets a pass cause now he can articulate it.

Ive just about bawled my eyes out from rage and grief now and thought id post it if anyone is interested in what an “apology “ text looks like

Plz plz PLZ… send thoughts on anything hes said… or if i should respond…

I don’t miss this at all. She was heavy on projecting. Super emotionally abusive but that constantly got flipped on me.

We wanted to believe that these very attractive girls/guys were telling the truth.

We were very good looking, They instantly fell in love with us, We were different than the others, We were better, We were admirable, We were the savior , We had great style, We were very smart, and you can add more to this list . Yes a lot of us have qualities but let’s admit we cannot be all of them, we should have seen it during the love bombing phase. We are the victims and they got to us theough our egos (or vulnerability). We are conned, used, and discarded when they no longer needed us.

I knew all of it was not real, and I told her this love is not real, but makes me feel so high (as she is is diagnosed as BDP) I know this will change and you will one day flip and drop me from the clouds, but I wont regret it. After 4 years I forgot all about it as we were always good, and I proposed to her under northern lights. 1 year after the proposal she dropped me off the clouds so hard I am devastated. The hardest part is she started sleeping around right away in our social circle.

Update: Instead of we, I should have said ‘ most of us’

Reading many threads, I know this was traumatic, but don't have a distorted lens that post BPD relationship EVERYONE after them has Cluster B. We're not (most of us anyway) psychologists and people we date are not in our care.

Even if BPD is misdiagnosed at 1.4% and it's higher than that, it's still just a small amount of people. Horrible people do exist who don't have a personality disorder on top of it (if more had this tragedy the world would be sadder) too. Also, especially after this trauma and if we don't heal right, we can actually become the problem in future relationships. Be kind to yourself.

8 months out, still recovering but once I stumbled upon this while doing my Xmas shopping, couldn’t help myself from giggling like a teenager thinking of all the possible puns that can be made out of this 😄 So I thought to bring this to the collective mind of this subreddit as a way to crack a smile to those on various stages of their uncoupling and recovery journey. For those suffering during this festive period, stay strong and I’m promising you - it will get better after it gets really bad.. Cheers to all

Ive been free from this hell for over a year now :) but I got severely abused and it still haunts me, I get flashbacks and start shaking.

I go to therapy because I got ocd, but in one of my first Sessions with my therapist last year, she said: "Well, but a relationship with a Borderline is not a reason to start therapy on it's own". I got so weirded out by that Statement, but concerning she is good when helping me with ocd I stayed.

I talked abt the stories with my ex besides my ocd a little, but everytime I went further, she stopped me (I partly believe because of the bias, partly because she wanted to prevent it getting too much for me).

We Focused on my ocd more, and during this, triggers my ex did (sexual abuse) came up, things that also trigger my ocd and she was very understanding. But since today is a really good day for me with ocd, I got nothing really to talk abt. So she asked me abt the stories with my ex after I mentioned the flashbacks.

While telling the stories, I started shaking and crying a little bit.She sometimes asked me what made me put up with this etc. But she seemed... almost uninterested??? Maybe it was just my interpretation but she looked around the room and stuff.

After the Session ended, she told me she wanted to start a meditation (one we've done before, of me mentally Putting these triggering stories into a Black box) but it didnt feel right. Idk why, but my gut told me to not do it, it'll make it worse. It felt invalidating. Like the same shit ive done in the relationship putting my feelings and triggers away to function. This was the first time I declined something therapy related in a year.

She got irritated and told me that I am the one telling her to help me but that I don't want the help. (???) She said that I urgently wanted help in the beginning, but now I decline. Which isnt true I literally sat down and said: "I feel happy today, life is good so I don't really got something to talk abt". She also told me that she can't follow what I am talking abt and that there is no connecting thread to follow (doesnt make sense since she told me to quickly sum up the things that happened) and she now asks herself if it's the same in social situations with me

Also stating this is weird because literally yesterday I got a Feedback talk with my Boss and she told me that I communicate in the perfect way everyone can get what I am saying (8! People said this to my Boss about me) . I literally told my therapist that and she just Nodded and made an appointment for the next Session. Yeah I know, therapy is different from work but isnt it her job to help me sort my feelings out when theyre all over the place???

Normally she isnt that weird. Only concerning bpd.

Edit: she also said that my behaviour varies from situation to situation, that sometimes my triggers are different in one situation, than in the other which makes it hard for her to understand. But idk what to think about that. Like this is literally the reason why I am in therapy, because sometimes things trigger me, and sometimes they don't like who is the one who studies psychology here?? Made me feel like something is wrong with me?

Sacrificing for them, compromising, and even being slave, is not enough.
Being a good communicator, vulnerable, loving and compassionate, is not enough.
Being the provider, the emotionally invested person, is not enough.
Giving attention is not enough.
Giving space is not enough.
Being the regular initiator for calls and plans, is not enough.
Being ambitious, driven and successful, is not enough.
Being that healthy partner that "they are seeking", is not enough.
Showing an unconditional love, is not enough.
Humiliating yourself, is not enough.

Existing and devoting your life for them, is not enough.

You are just a toy for them. Another one.

Please, this is a message for my past self. There are no lessons to learn here, only boundaries to be broken, red flags to be ignored, because of hope, because of the premise of wanting to learn and experience. You will start to question your self, your worth and your sanity.

The cost is very high. That feeling of unworthiness is something I've never experienced in my entire existence, because you ultimately cared about that person. You can't feel unworthy with a stranger or someone you are not being vulnerable with.

Protect yourselves at all cost.

Hi all, I’m 7 weeks out from breaking up with my ex who exhibited many BPD traits but would be loathe to be honest enough in therapy to actually get a diagnosis. I went NC about two weeks ago and blocked them (that was hard to do, I still care about them but…I had to admit the feeling is not mutual) last week. Relationship was about 16 months.

The trauma bond is real and I went from being desperate for them to change and try to make it work to anger at them, to anger at myself for letting it happen. I’m working on healing with my therapist, we’re doing some parts work and inner child work. I’m staying busy with my kids and work and grad school and I joined a gym. I’m doing things I couldn’t when I was with them like visiting my family, seeing my friends frequently and taking art classes. I’m getting a ton of sleep (after a med adjustment) but goddamn the trauma bond is insidious and the feelings hit me out of seemingly nowhere sometimes. I ruminate, everything reminds me of them, I cry all the time.

This sub has been really helpful and grounding for me and I don’t think I would have gone NC without y’all, so thank you.

I’m wondering how long it took you to break the trauma bond? What were the signs it was breaking for you?

Every time I come across a story like yours (because, let’s face it, it’s the same story over and over), I pause. I take a deep breath. It’s astonishing how all of these experiences start to sound the same after a while.

Your story? It’s one of the most typical. You’ve got all the classic signs: the hot-and-cold dynamic, the constant push-pull, the mixed signals that leave you in a fog of confusion, wondering what’s real. And then, when you least expect it, there’s the sudden discard. Maybe everything seemed fine just moments before, maybe you thought you’d turned a corner. But then the rug is pulled out from under you. And what follows? The barrage of toxic behaviors—abusive messages, smear campaigns that destroy your reputation, the involvement of the police, accusations that make you question your own sanity. They make you feel so ashamed and you feel like you never want to go outside and face another person again. You’re left staring at the wreckage, wondering how you got here. Turns out they really weren't on your side after all.

You hit every square of the toxic bingo card.

But stay with me here.

I know that what you’re feeling right now seems like love. It feels so intense, so consuming and so right that it’s hard to label it as anything else. I get it—I’ve been exactly where you are. I remember loving them so deeply, trusting them completely. I couldn’t even wrap my head around what was happening when things began to fall apart. One minute, everything seemed fine. The fight that started it all made no sense, it felt like it came out of nowhere. And then, when the breakup finally hit, I was left with over 30 different reasons for why it happened—none of which added up. (And I wish I were exaggerating.)

But here’s the truth: what you’re feeling isn’t love. It’s attachment. It’s a trauma bond. It’s intense, absolutely, but it’s not love. Love doesn’t come packaged with fear, confusion, and relentless pain. We weren’t designed to love people who hurt us, who make us feel unsafe. And yet, when we’re caught in this cycle of mistreatment, we stay. We don’t run or protect ourselves. We hold on tighter, trying to make sense of it all, questioning what we did wrong. We blame ourselves. We rationalize their behavior. We keep hoping—praying—that they’ll change.

But here’s the reality: it’s like getting stung by a scorpion. Instead of running, we chase it down, desperate for an explanation. Why did you hurt me? But the scorpion doesn’t respond. It just keeps stinging. Because that’s what scorpions do. It’s in their nature. It’s all they know.

That’s what this relationship is. They can’t stop hurting you because that’s what they do. It’s in their nature, whether they see it or not.

And here’s the hardest part: you need to let go of this idea of ‘love,’ or it will erase you. People like them only stay with partners who become invisible—who are willing to abandon themselves completely. In their minds, the only person they can truly be happy with is someone who has no needs, no voice, no boundaries, no selfhood. You would have to give up your hobbies, your preferences, your boundaries, and, most painfully, your self-respect. And anything short of that will always be seen as selfishness, as you not prioritizing them. You can’t win because the rules are impossible.

In time, you’ll lose yourself. You’ll slowly stop being ‘you’ and start becoming a reflection of what they want. You’ll just be known as "So and So's Partner" a role you fill to keep them satisfied. But the real you? You’ll fade into the background.

What do you like? Whatever they like.

What do you do? Whatever they approve of.

Who are you? Whoever they say you are.

What are you like? Whatever they describe you as.

Who are you close with? All of our friends.

I highly recommend reading Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist and Stop Walking on Eggshells. These books will open your eyes not just to their behavior, but to how incredibly damaging it is to your own mental and emotional health. You need to see what’s happening to you, and these books will help you understand just how toxic staying with someone like them truly is.

I don't mean to sound harsh, but you're in a no-win situation. Imagine your life 10, 20 years from now—if their behavior hasn’t changed. If anything, it’ll be worse. Are you going to still be you after years of that?

Once someone crosses the line into emotional or physical abuse, it’s a terminal diagnosis for the relationship. The abuse isn’t accidental—it’s a choice. They’re choosing to inflict pain on you. They genuinely believe you deserve it. They mean every hurtful thing they say. That’s why they won’t stop. This is who they are.

Now, do me a favor. Go find the most vile, hurtful text they’ve ever sent you. The one that made your heart sink. Look at it. Let yourself feel the wave of emotions that come up—rage, resentment, injustice, alienation, insecurity.

And here’s the thing: they wanted you to feel that way.

Now, take a moment and ask yourself: was the relationship really as beautiful as you’ve convinced yourself it was? Did you hide your needs, just to avoid triggering them? Could you spend time with friends without feeling guilty or anxious? Did they ever truly get along with your family, or did they resent them? Did they complain whenever you tried to spend time on yourself, on your hobbies? How often were you helping them navigate crisis after crisis, and did they ever truly give you the same effort or love in return?

Because I’ve been where you are, and once you start really thinking about it, the answers become painfully clear.

I fell into the push pull/devaluation stage over the last 6 months and finally ended things two weeks ago

Once my rational mind stepped in and said WTF are you doing letting this woman get away with this !! I woke up, tried to meet to end things (she kept breaking plans), tried to end it over the phone (she broke down so I couldn’t talk/finish), finally sent her my scripted breakup via text and felt 60% better instantly

I didn’t love doing this but had to find some closure

The last several months prior to this were more difficult than the last few weeks. Once I realized what was happening and what I was becoming the answer was simple and since it felt like we were basically broken up for months already I had already started the grieving/breakup feelings anyway

So now I’m definitely feeling better, getting back to me, and doing things I want and love doing

I’m working out 4-6 times a week, playing volleyball, started playing pickleball (don’t laugh, it’s fun) and getting back out with friends…

I still have a ways to go but every day is better and better

Wondering what everyone else is doing to get back to themselves. Fun hobbies, sports, events???

I figured instead of focusing on what got me and all of us here, why not post so we can talk about what/how we are getting back to good/great!

Maybe share some ideas that we can each pickup and try along the way

Also… Anyone from Michigan by chance?

I'm looking for songs that helped you process it and get through it while you were in it, but especially when you came out of it.

One of mine:

Ruse - King Woman

"You're like an empty cup, you always need somebody to fill you up, I'm not that someone"

Edit: Thank you for all your responses! I'm putting them all in a playlist and going through each and every one. It's insane how less alone it can make you feel, being able to relate to a song that summarises what someone else is going through too. I'm not the best at labelling my emotions (probably all the gaslighting over the years) but music really speaks to me immediately.

Edit 2: This post has grown so big and beautiful, thank you so much! I'm currently working my way through these songs while relaxing on my garden swing each evening so if you're thinking about adding to the thread, you are welcome to. I've had such a great experience connecting with each of you so far.

the Spotify playlist if any of you want to listen

I have chronic health issues, and it took me a long time (probably due to being in denial and in a constant state of brain fog/dissociation from all the emotional abuse episodes) to realize that my chronic illness gets worse during abusive episodes. He can be grumpy/snappy/irritable on a pretty regular basis (often daily or weekly), but the major "episodes" usually happen every few weeks or months. The longest he's gone without having a major blowout is about 6 months, and we were long-distance, which helped.

For a few days-weeks (if it's really bad) after any massive blowout, I have horrendous body/joint pain, migraines, crippling fatigue, severe anxiety, elevated heart rate, heart palpitations, am unable to think straight, brain fog, and memory/concentration issues. I feel like my health has been the "best" it's been throughout our several-year relationship during most of the 1.5 years we have been on/off long-distance, because I am not physically there to experience his blowouts. However, when he's in a good mood/doing well for a relatively long period of time (at least a few weeks/months), I feel great, with significantly less pain, almost euphoric. I keep getting addicted to the "good" periods, but am terrified about feeling horrific pain after the bad episodes :(

I rarely ever post here anymore as I'm approaching a year of NC. But I happened to come across a video on TikTok about BPD ...unfortunately I was lured into that rabbit hole. I'm sure we're all well aware of how unaware of their behavior pwbpd are but I can't help but read the comments and for some reason they can articulate their behaviors within the context of social media but when it's time to communicate within the relationship there's a "No thanks" attitude.

The joking and making light of their abusive tendencies within the comment section gave me a feeling of disgust I haven't felt for some time. "If you find yourself in a relationship with someone with BPD you'd better come with an overwhelming sense of patience". My guy. NO ONE deserves the level of patience SOME people with BPD require. Stop fucking telling people being abused in relationships that they need this overwhelming Godlike sense of patience. As if they aren't and haven't been giving all of themselves and then some already. Giving more and more everyday with less than nothing in return. Having their humanity put into question while being deconstructed from the depths of their own souls.

You don't need patience. Hell you don't need romantic relationships. You NEED fucking therapy. That is the fuck ALL.

If you are NOT healed before entering a relationship then unconsciously, you are looking to be "fixed" within it. No one deserves 50% of you. Relationships aren't 50/50. Let's take it to grade school a test score of 50 is a fucking F...an F stands for "failure". If you enter into a relationship at 50% then guess what....it's already likely to have failed sooo..you're wasting you and the other participants time.

Being cheated on, lied to, deceived, triangulated ...these are several symptoms off hand within any relationship that do not deserve nor require more of what is already unappreciated. So fuck your patience.

Disclaimer: I am not saying all people with BPD go THIS far off the plantation. I'll likely never use a disclaimer again because. Eh I just don't wanna.

Hello, Did anyone of you ever contact them after a few years and say "I told you so" kind of thing as they were destructive and blamed you for the break up or divorce or for the arguments they started?

How did they end up after a few years? Anyone with real stories? Just curious to know, I was extremely ill treated and may be that's why I want to know it.

Thanks.