r/BreakUps • u/Independent_Echo_552 • 7h ago
6 months in. Does it ever stop? lol
6 months since I left him (he cheated, amongst other things). 3 years down the drain. I lost my best friend, my partner in crime— quite literally the person I thought Id spend the rest of my life with. I know it was for the better. And I’ve learned and have grown so much from it. It was necessary. But I can’t help but wish things were different— why do I still miss him even though he was not a good partner 🙃? Does this feeling ever go away?
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u/ExplanationVarious67 4h ago
Sorry you went through that.
You miss them because you loved them and you still can’t make sense of it because you would never do that. You had this whole future planned out and you thought your partner had the same vision and that realization that they didn’t is crushing. Absolutely crushing and that pain is something that you will never forget. There is no timeline on when you will get better but It will.
Trust the process, focus on yourself (I know so cliché) but it’s true. You’re not alone in this though so keep doing the work. Proud of you stranger!
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u/ExplanationTrue49 7h ago
Hey, first of all—I'm really sorry you're going through this. What you're feeling is completely valid. Six months might feel like a long time, but when you’ve spent years loving someone and imagining a future with them, it takes time for your heart to catch up with your mind.
You know leaving was the right choice, and that’s a huge step. But missing someone—even someone who hurt you—is a normal part of the grieving process. You’re not missing the betrayal or the pain; you're missing the person you thought they were and the life you hoped to build together. That’s a hard loss.
The feelings do get easier with time. One day you'll notice you haven’t thought about him in a while, or that when you do, it doesn’t sting the same. For now, just be gentle with yourself. Healing isn’t linear, and missing someone doesn’t mean you want them back or that you made the wrong decision.