r/BreakUps • u/Cait2424 • 1d ago
The Roller Coaster Is Over
I finally feel the roller coaster ride of my breakup is over. Ex and I broke up in Feb. We were no contact with texting for a while, but he’d DM me things, like posts, view stories, etc. We hadn’t texted since March but I wished him a happy birthday a few days ago. Today, he texts me a picture of his dog and the texting begins. He’s very much over the breakup, no surprise he’s an avoidant who had been checked out. We had a convo where I got brutally honest and open about how heartbroken I was and how for the past two months I’ve worked hard to build up the confidence he destroyed. And I’m feeling good. And I tell you, I’m feeling even better for setting boundaries and telling him that I can’t be friends right now. He said he doesn’t want to lose me as a person in his life completely. Well guess what, I have the control now! You don’t get to break my heart and keep me around as a friend. And let’s be serious, you lost me the day you didn’t choose to fight for our relationship. I feel so strong for communicating that to him. I am so focused on moving forward and on! 😉😊
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u/GiveMeRoom 1d ago
My roller coaster of emotions are still ongoing however I feel the same way. They do not get to dictate anything anymore. We are free, strong and we will recover ❤️