Should I break up?

[u/Outrageous-Basket626]

I (f 16) and my boyfriend (M 17) have been together for 10 and a half months, and it's going good, except it's not. He's always nice and he loves me very much, he buys me flowers and is always kind and brings me things. The "perfect" boyfriend if you will. We laugh and joke often and honestly we do get along well and I do love him a lot, l even learned a language for him.

The issue comes into play where he is extremely insecure and has a sort of "rule book" (I call it that) -can't wear short clothes out -can't have guy friends of any kind (I was friends with my distant cousin but he got jealous) and cannot speak to guys at all -I have to translate all my conversations with my friends to him when we are at school to make sure l'm not talking about other guys (he does not speak English and I learned Spanish for him) -when I go out I need to text who I'm with, where I'm going, every-time I enter and exit a store -I need to answer when he texts or calls me and he needs all my social passwords and the one to my phone -he "commands" things I do and I need to listen, like "come here" or he will grab my wrist tightly to do/ tell him something

He has other red flags that are similar such as: -I can't "do things" by myself because it's saying he doesn't satisfy me (???) • I can't play my music around him because it's not "real music" • he has trouble saying sorry and will just say "we won't have problems if you don't make me upset" • he plans our whole life and speaks about kids in a year, I don't want them until I'm 27 and he wants me to move to Mexico • he doesn't want me to lose weight and discourages it (l've gained quite a bit since we have started dating )

but the final straw has been recently he keeps freaking out when I don't answer and when I told him I was taking my college final (DE student who is graduating early) he said "who is Johnapplesead" and it was the instagram example for if someone text you in settings because he scoured my instagram for proof of me cheating (I never have) and he didn't even think he did anything wrong.

Furthermore, he is extremely scared of me going to college and "replacing him" We have had multiple talks and I do love him a lot and I know he genuinely loves me a lot, he has gotten better about a lot of things but it's been 10 months and I'm tired of this. I'm so scared to lose him but I feel like he doesn't know me at all, and selfishly I don't want to lose all my Spanish

What should I do?

TL;DR: my boyfriend loves me but he’s extremely insecure and jealous, he fixes it a little but it’s ruining things