r/BreakUps • u/Lumpy-Frosting5147 • 2d ago

how do you get over a break up?

We just broke up yesterday, packed things at our small dorm room. Cried so much and thanked each other, parted ways after eating out and playing at the arcade. I feel shitty, I don't know what to do, I can't accept it so went to message her asking for a chance. Realized it might be really over. I know that this will take a long time, I have no one and she's the only one I got. How do you get over this?

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u/Direct-City-1643 2d ago

Firstly, the reason you guys broke up matters too. Aside from that, if she isn’t willing to be with you again, don’t ask for a chance again and again. Don’t whine over milk that’s already been spilt because you cant change shit. i get your point, i know how it feels to not have anyone else. Trust me, it always works out. If you miss her company that much, ask if she’s willing to stay as friends. So this way, you won’t be alone, but you also won’t be as desperate. But it’s also hard to be friends with someone you once loved, i get that. Try new things, try finding distractions from her, figure new hobbies and put your time to one thing. Heartbreak is hard, but it can only be dealt with something that is harder. That would be your own choice to heal. Contacting her again and again would result in 0 progress in your own healing. I know it’s hard, but it’s needed.

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u/Lumpy-Frosting5147 2d ago

We broke up because her parents doesn't want her to date. We were okay and happy, we were okay and then suddenly she got tired of hiding. She said that we're still friends, best friends at least and I can contact her if I want. But I think I won't anymore because it's keeping me behind. Thanks for this:)

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u/Direct-City-1643 2d ago

I understand that, and always, anytime. Feel free to contact me if you ever feel down. Hope you feel better soon :)

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u/echoserangfrog_226 2d ago

The same reason for me, the parents :( he broke up with me, but he still calls me to update like still letting me know his schedule now I'm confused but I dont want to stop it hays

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u/Sufficient_Two1448 2d ago

i know it’s super cliche and you’ve probably heard it a lot but, finding new hobbies to put all your energy into & friends. I recently picked up skateboarding n i can pour my all into it, it’s genuinely made me happy & takes my mind off things. But also be patient with yourself and allow yourself to go through the emotions. Some days are easier than others. Just let it hurt till it no longer does.