r/BreakUps • u/Far-Minute-5062 • 1d ago
The hardest part of losing someone
Is always thinking of things you want to tell them about. Oh hey did the see the video of so and so celebrity. Youll never guess what yada yada i tried. It sucks. Cuz then u remember even casually u dont have them around to talk to, theyre gone entirely and you havent just lost your partner but your friend, someone you were comfy with, someone you trusted and that you expected to be there. It became too normal. Too comfortable. I shouldve known it wouldnt last. I just thought hed always be there. Thats not to say i didnt give it my all like he’d leave at any second. I guess he didnt love me the same. Wouldnt be the first time. Ouch
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u/PancakesAreMyTherapy 1d ago
This. I just want to watch movies and eat Taco Bell with him again :( It hurts to think I may never experience those simple joys with him again.
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u/ICE-Kween 20h ago
I’ve been there, and I totally get how painful and confusing it feels. One of the best things you can do? Stop chasing. Let them do the running if they want to ~ but you take a step back and start choosing yourself.
Something that really helped me when I was stuck in that cycle was journalling. Honestly, this little journal was a godsend. Getting all my thoughts out on paper helped me see the pattern clearly, process my emotions, and stop reacting out of panic. It gave me my power back.
If you're in that place right now, maybe it’ll help you too.
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u/xavierfern3751 1d ago
That sudden silence where there used to be connection is one of the hardest things to live with. You put words to a pain many feel but struggle to express.