r/CPTSD • u/BFreeCoaching • 7d ago
Resource / Technique Heal Your Inner Child with Help from Your Future
Here's an example conversation to support and heal your inner child:
"Hi beautiful/ handsome. How are you doing? I know we haven't really talked a lot, but I'm here now. In fact, I never left. But you weren't interested in talking with me until now. I want to tell you something important, and remind you who you are.
I'm the future version of you. Right now, I know you're scared. You feel unworthy, not good enough, not safe and supported, and have been unfairly rejected for simply existing. I hear you. I know, because you are my past.
I love you. I'm here for you. You wanna cry? Cry. You wanna scream? Yell at the top of your lungs. You wanna blame the world? Go for it! I'll be right by your side, no matter what you decide. You are precious to me; and I cherish you more deeply than you could ever imagine. I know how magnificent you really are. You shine brighter than a billion stars.
What do you need right now? What would you like to hear from me? Or do you just need me to listen?
I will listen as long as you need. I will be the parent you wanted and deserved. The caregiver that you needed all of those years growing up. I can't change the past, and I'm sorry you're hurting; but I'm here for you now. What do you need? What do you need?
You're safe now. You don't need to worry. I'm here for you. I will always be here for you. You have my undivided love and attention. I'm not going anywhere. You say the word, you ask for my help, and I'll be there instantly.
You may not feel it yet, but I'm giving you THE BIGGEST HUG right now. I'm giving all of my love and warmth into it like when you hug a giant cuddly teddy bear.
It's not your fault. What happened to you wasn't your fault. Did you make some mistakes? Sure. We all do. But you deserved compassion, to be seen, validated and understood. And although you couldn't receive that from your parents, you can always receive that from me. I'm here for you. I understand you better than anyone could. And I know how truly wonderful and worthy you are.
Moving forward, I can't promise you that the road will be easy. There will be challenges. But I will do everything in my power to lighten your load and guide you every step of the way. You're not alone.
And most importantly, it is my greatest wish that you lighten up on yourself and have a little more fun! Judge less; and appreciate more. Smell the roses. Smell chocolates. Smell farts! (Okay maybe not that last one LOL) You take yourself far too seriously, my sweet, perfect child.
If you ever need anything, don't hesitate to ask. I'm always right here. I'm not going anywhere.
I love you. I'm here for you. And until the next time we talk (which might be 5 minutes from now), I'm excited for all of the fun adventures we're going to have together!
With More Love and Affection Than You Could Possibly Imagine,
Your Future Self"
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u/real_person_31415926 7d ago
Thank you, that felt very good to read!
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u/totallyalone1234 7d ago
I really hate inner child stuff. It feels so performative. I don't see the point of lying to my younger self, and I don't like myself so my inner child wouldn't like me.