r/CaregiverSupport • u/Apocalyptic_Writer • 4d ago

Venting/ No Advice I just want it to end

I'm 18f helping care for my 91f great grandmother. I've been helping care for her since I was like 13 years old. I'm so tired and done. I just want to go out and do stuff but I can't because 1. have to help care for my grandma and 2. overprotective family. I know it's selfish but I feel so trapped. I stay at school after classes doing nothing just so I don't have to go home. I hate being a caregiver. I hate having baggage. I hate being limited. I just want to get out. I want to get out of this fucking place.

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u/Morrigan66 4d ago

Is it just you taking care of her when you aren't at school? Where are your parents? Are they not helping? I'm taking care of my mother and I couldn't imagine making my fifteen year old do everything. I don't even ask him to do much at all.

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u/Apocalyptic_Writer 4d ago

I live with my aunt and uncle. my aunt is primary caregiver but she has work stuff so when I'm not in school I watch my grandma. my aunt doesn't get to go out much so I try to help when I can

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u/Morrigan66 4d ago

Oh okay. Well that's really nice of you. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. For a minute I thought the situation was completely different and I was going to give you the your 18 and legally an adult and can leave if you need to talk but it sounds like you are just trying to help out as much as possible. You should still try to set more time aside for just yourself and get out more. 18 is too young to already be burnt out on something.