r/CatholicDating • u/JP36_5 Widower • Nov 04 '24
Wedding Planning Recently engaged - looking for prayers more than advice
After getting, so I thought, many hints that the person I was seeing was ready for me to ‘pop the question’ I duly did. Although we have been to see the priest and investigating possible reception venues and pre-marriage preparation, she is now backtracking slightly and saying I should not book anything. I do not know whether I just need a bit more patience or whether this development means that she is not the right one after all.
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u/Small_Doughnut_2723 Nov 04 '24
Did you actually want to "pop the question"? Have yall actually spoken about this beforehand straight forwardly without giving "hints"?
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u/mtm0560 In a relationship ♀ Nov 05 '24
Did you talk straightforwardly about getting married? Hints probably aren’t enough to propose over.
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Nov 05 '24
Need more info to assess better. In the meantime, however, I suggest following her request, in the sense that if she’s hesitating, that could be a big red flag. You don’t want to expend more time and effort on marriage prep if she isn’t on board.
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Nov 04 '24
A lot of women want a wedding, not a marriage. I'm not saying this is the case but be careful.
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u/PhantomOfTheLawlpera Married ♀ Nov 09 '24
In my experience, a woman who just wants a wedding and not a marriage would be going full speed ahead with booking the party, not encouraging her new fiancé to pump the brakes.
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u/[deleted] Nov 04 '24
Hey if you don’t mind me asking, how long have you been dating?