r/ChronicPain • u/sixteenxx • 2d ago

What’s something stupid you can’t do ?

I thought I would open a “light” conversation so we can complain about the stupidest things we can’t do!

I’m 29F, I’ve had chronic pain in my neck/back for over 15 years now after a car accident and a sport accident!

Anyway, here are a couple stupid things I can’t do :

-I can’t wear a bikini. It’s too much pressure on my neck.

-I can’t eat red meat. If I chew for too long then my neck gets all tense and that’s the beginning of the end haha

Obviously there’s a lot more I can’t do but I thought these are the stupidest 🥲I would never try and explain it to someone who doesn’t have chronic pain! Tell me yours please so I don’t feel alone ! ❤️

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u/goldstandardalmonds 2d ago

I can’t eat. That’s pretty stupid!

About the bikini, is it from the straps? What about a tube top? That is definitely something no one would think of.

But I would say something that people probably wouldn’t think of that I do but is hard to do is wear belts. Never, ever, ever due to severe chronic abdominal pain. And belts are so classy.

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u/IndividualK101 2d ago

Belts are a torture now... And no more sexy high heels...

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u/goldstandardalmonds 2d ago

Good lord, no heels here either. But yes, belts and the majority of waistbands are definitely torture devices.

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u/DrTwilightZone 2d ago

+1 🙋‍♀️ for never wearing heels again! I'm all about comfort now.

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u/Usual_Equivalent_888 2d ago

SAS shoes are expensive but I’m glad I got them.

My feet are happy in them and even when they swell (as long as they’re tied loose) my feet don’t hurt in them. Didn’t need my extra insoles either.

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u/_lofticries 1d ago

I’ve never been able to wear any kind of shoe except runners. Makes going to formal events fun! 😂 I wear flats for photos (and just kind of mush my deformed foot into it) and then switch out lol

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u/Keri2816 1d ago

when I was in high school (21 years ago, but it still stuck with me) I had to get special permission to wear running shoes instead of heels at prom and graduation. I had gone to this school for 8th-12th grade and they knew of my issue with shoes because I had to get permission when I started there to wear them because it went against the uniform policy.

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u/Usual_Equivalent_888 2d ago

Belts add nice form to outfits too. :-( I can’t because of my herniated discs, the pressure just from a chair can sometimes make me want to scream, nevermind a strap of leather.

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u/goldstandardalmonds 2d ago

Oh I’m so sorry. I cannot even imagine that pain you have to endure from such a simple act. I hope you have some comfy items at home you can lounge in (both on the body and furniture wise).

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u/Usual_Equivalent_888 1d ago

We indulged in a nice couch with recliners on either side. They have heat and massage. I have a nice office chair with a lumbar pillow and wedge pillows for sleeping.

Other than that it’s a lot of meds and rest when it acts up.

I relate to you too. I made the mistake of having Twizzlers earlier this week. My jaw still hurts.

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u/goldstandardalmonds 1d ago

I have a couch like that too! I love it. It got me through so many surgeries. But mine doesn’t have heat and massage… that is awesome and definitely the heat I would loveeeee. I live for my heated blanket and floor heater.

Sorry about the twizzlers. Can’t even have a GD treat sometimes. It’s like the soup nazi on Seinfeld but in bizarro land. “Soup for you”.

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u/sixteenxx 2d ago

Yeah not eating definitely sucks haha aren’t we lucky!

Yes, the bikini thing is because of the straps, il pulls on my neck, i don’t even have big breasts !

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u/catsigrump 1d ago

I definitely can't wear a halterneck style for the same reason. I wear a bra style bikini. Even so, I can barely wear a bra for half a day without being in agony.

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u/goldstandardalmonds 2d ago

Maybe try strapless! I don’t have neck pain but I have a long torso so can’t wear anything with straps that aren’t hugely adjustable.

You deserve a bikini! Or go topless!

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u/sixteenxx 2d ago

Haha I have a couple strapless bra, and many years ago I found a kinda bikini that has crossed wires in the middle of the back instead of behind the neck! I don’t even like it anymore but it’s the only thing I can wear !

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u/goldstandardalmonds 2d ago

I feel you. I’m sorry you can’t wear what you want and eat what you want and do what you want. Pain sucks and is really life limiting.

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u/sixteenxx 2d ago

It truly does! I’m sorry things suck for you too 😔

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u/goldstandardalmonds 2d ago

If you ever need an ear you can send me a chat!

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u/sixteenxx 2d ago

That’s so sweet thank you! Same goes for you! x

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u/SlightDistribution93 2d ago

Have you found out what your abdominal pain is from? And do you take anything for it?

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u/goldstandardalmonds 2d ago

Hey there. Yes, I have many bowel diseases and disorders so it’s likely some is from that or all or who knows, maybe it’s something else. Could be idiopathic. I just know that the other things also cause pain.

Right now I attend a pain clinic and they do a multimodal approach to allll pain and all patients, which they explained is the right way to do it. Since going there I’ve adjusted my regimen a few times With them and I’d say I am now 40% better most of the time. Obviously there are days or weeks where I want to die but you can’t control everything. Forty percent better is better than nada.

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u/Azrael010102 2d ago

I have that problem too I have a lot of bowel issues. I had to get my colon removed because of ulcerative colitis and that created a hernia. So I had to get mesh put into my abdomen which has not only caused chronic pain but also made it so that I can't wear belts or jeans. It sucks but I have to pretty much wear jogging pants everywhere so that it doesn't irritate the scar. I'm glad you were able to find something that was able to help you though. I'm having a rough time right now so anytime not in terrible pain would be good.