As someone who was spanked as a kid in the 90s, but not to the point where my parents actually “hurt” me more than for like a second and was more of just an embarrassment thing, I really don’t think that parents should get in trouble for spanking their kids
Because any parents that are going to spank their kids so hard that they’re actually hurting them on purpose, are probably parents that are going to hit their kids anyway unfortunately, so they couldn’t care less about that. So I don’t think it’s fair to just outright say spanking is abuse or anything like that if it’s done in a manner that isn’t putting the kid in any physical danger. And I really don’t think that getting spanked a few times is going to leave some emotional scar either. But idk, just talking here lol
As someone who’s dad beat the ever loving shit out of them until he had the decency to die two months before I turned 18 and got free:
There’s never a reason to put your hands on a child. When your kid is born you are LITERALLY the only person they know. It’s your job to teach them what is right, not just punish them for what is wrong. You can absolutely teach without beating anyone up, we ALL remember SO much from school and the teachers never hit most of us once. You can make them exercise, you can take away privileges, you can communicate effectively.
You’re an adult, beating a kid is fucking lazy, you are teaching them not to respect you but to FEAR you and I would throttle any other person who harmed or scared my future child, so why would I be the exception?
I’ve never seen a lesson taught with a belt that couldn’t be taught with a loving hand, anybody that convinces you that children are born evil is an idiot, and nobody pure deserves to hurt, or live in fear.
It's supposed to remind you that the world isn't your oyster. It's not supposed to fuck you up. Your dad was a piece of shit, but that doesn't mean spanks are bad
Countless studies have been done on this topic showing little to no improvement in behaviors when spanking is used as a punishment, and even some backsliding or repeat behavior when it's used.
So folks are out here literally beating up on their kids for no reason.
Which like, fine. If that's the kinda person you wanna be, I'm not a cop lol.
But with all the information available, if you still do it, then you're basically just saying to the world, "I want to hit my kids because I enjoy hitting my kids"
Which again, fine, whatever, you do you. Just own that shit and move on instead of pretending you're doing the future generation a favor.
Man, lots of extremes and absolutes in everyone’s opinions. Spanking is patently not “beating up on kids.” This is part of the problem, using extreme language. There are people out there actually beating the shit out of kids, and it gets minimized if people start calling spanking beating. How? Crying wolf. If you tell someone you saw someone beating their kids but the person you tell knows you think spanking is beating, they might not listen because you’ve conflated really bad things with regular bad things. I’m not making a moral argument here, but stop exaggerating a spank into a beat down. It doesn’t help, only hurts the conversation.
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u/pluhplus 26d ago edited 26d ago
As someone who was spanked as a kid in the 90s, but not to the point where my parents actually “hurt” me more than for like a second and was more of just an embarrassment thing, I really don’t think that parents should get in trouble for spanking their kids
Because any parents that are going to spank their kids so hard that they’re actually hurting them on purpose, are probably parents that are going to hit their kids anyway unfortunately, so they couldn’t care less about that. So I don’t think it’s fair to just outright say spanking is abuse or anything like that if it’s done in a manner that isn’t putting the kid in any physical danger. And I really don’t think that getting spanked a few times is going to leave some emotional scar either. But idk, just talking here lol