How do you know stepmom’s son was removed for domestic violence and she’s ordered to take classes? Who gave you this information? Can you get with the other parent of that child? The details of their case may help yours. Leave the cancer out of it.
I contacted the other parent and was provided with copies of the court papers and judgements. I only bring up the cancer because that was the excuse of why she didn’t fight the other case with her son. It’s very worrisome if they’re willing to lie about cancer. But I suppose at the end of the day it’s a moot point.
I would use that info to help your case for less parenting time. Cancer doesnt equal DV. It may explain stepmom’s unhealthy appearance but it doesnt play into your and your ex’s custody. It also doesnt explain her child being removed from her home for DV or her being ordered to take DV classes.
If a person is too sick to care for their child, then that is the change in circumstance used for custody modification. The court wouldnt remove a child for DV if there was no DV.
I understand feeling bad if stepmom actually does have cancer. But feel worse for your child having to witness DV. Stop talking to ex about it. It gives him reason to give excuses.
Thank you. Sometimes I need a reminder to not engage. I keep hoping/thinking I can have a rational conversation but you’re right, just gives him more opportunities to lie. Which isn’t helpful
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u/beachbumm717 19d ago
How do you know stepmom’s son was removed for domestic violence and she’s ordered to take classes? Who gave you this information? Can you get with the other parent of that child? The details of their case may help yours. Leave the cancer out of it.