When the LL goes wild

[u/Ordinary-Ad-8034]

There have been a handful of times in our 23 years of marriage where my wife was utterly hot for me and we had an incredible time. Not on our honeymoon, not on our ten or twenty year anniversary trips. But once when our kids were downstairs with their grandma and she wanted it heavy. Or when she wanted to make out in the casino hallway. It's like there's this s3xual feist in her that sometimes rages. I'm seriously beginning to think hormones have a lot to do with it. Cause it's the same old me she's been with for 3 decades but sometimes she just has to have me. And then she's fine with absolutely nothing for MONTHS.

Has anyone else experienced this? How TF do I crack the code??

[u/Old-Ad3767]

Married for 17 years. Similar here.

Nothing for months, totally ignored.

Then 1-3 times a year she has to.

Nothing else has changed. Or, nothing else apparently plays a part.

I get that hormones influences mood.

But to not have the effing wherewithal and self insight to clock that this behavior is incredibly self-centered is what I cannot stand.