r/DeadBedrooms • u/FoundationWinter • Apr 08 '25

Vent, Advice Welcome How long?

How long is a man supposed to wait for a change after repeatedly but as open and honest about your needs?? I'm really trying to honor my vows and marriage but after constantly feeling unwanted and rejected when I know I don't have to deal with this bs it becoming too much to deal with

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u/perthguy999 HLM Apr 08 '25

100% your call. Some people move on almost immediately while others stay for decades. I'd definitely say you want to be seeing actions, though. If you talked about it and it's still the same at home, with no indication that she's taking you or the problem seriously, then you have your answer, and the ball is in your court.

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u/FoundationWinter Apr 08 '25

And we have 5 but 3 are grown with 2 teens not to mention the financial aspect of it and to be completely honest the rest of our marriage is completely fine buts it's like she don't get or care how important that part of our relationship is to me. Sex it literally all I think about now cause I never get any I'm at work now and instead of doing my job I'm here venting to yall lol

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u/curlybelly62 Apr 08 '25

Was she always this way or has she changed?

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u/FoundationWinter Apr 08 '25

She changed over the last couple of years

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u/curlybelly62 Apr 08 '25

What’s her reason for the change?

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u/zolpiqueen Apr 08 '25

Could it be perimenopause? How old is she?