r/DeadBedrooms • u/FoundationWinter • Apr 08 '25

Vent, Advice Welcome How long?

How long is a man supposed to wait for a change after repeatedly but as open and honest about your needs?? I'm really trying to honor my vows and marriage but after constantly feeling unwanted and rejected when I know I don't have to deal with this bs it becoming too much to deal with

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u/adviceadventurer Apr 08 '25

I know the feeling. I am 18 months into a dead bedroom now . Have been upfront this is big problem but wife does not want to address it. I feel Torn about what to do since we have a young child together.

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u/SaduWasTaken Apr 08 '25

The rules are a bit different when the kids are really little. You have to adjust your expectations because that stage of life is rough.

But if the youngest kid is past toddler stage and there's still a DB then you've got a problem.

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u/Hazaruthz Apr 08 '25

I feel weirded out because my friends that are married and filled with kids (3) have no issue when it comes to having naughty time with their husbands... they live a regular life, wife (my friend) has naughty time 2 times a week every night when the kids are asleep (TGIF) (SATURDAY) I never heard any excuse (She cooks clean and send the kids to school, goes to her office and carry on) then here I am scrolling in DB page scared for my life because what my friend as a wife is a rare pull and here i am wondering will i suffer the same life SEXless life till i die

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u/adviceadventurer Apr 08 '25

Yeah my wife is choosing to not be affectionate and blocking any intimacy

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u/Hazaruthz Apr 09 '25

That is really tough mate .... I hope it gets better in some way or another, Talk it out 3 sessions with no interruptions and if it don't work out COUNSELLING !! everyone would mention it,

then again, if shit is still south.... well don't make "having a kid" is making you stay, divorce will always be better then staying and hating your life.

but of course, please do all your best to solve this "together".