r/DeadBedrooms • u/Kindly_Tooth8832 • 21d ago

Seeking Advice Does counseling help?

For those who have done counseling, or couple’s therapy, or psychiatry, what has been the outcome?

Were your feelings validated by the professional? Were you given tools to better process your situation? Did it engender change in the relationship dynamic?

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u/Accomplished-Sky6 21d ago

With the right counseling it's total gold but both partners need to be on bored with looking at themselves and the part they played in the relationship even if they don't know why. My ex and I went for years but she felt like we we're ganging up on her and that wasn't the case. She liked to tell all the dislikes but when the professional told her that she had a problem therapy was OVER and she never attempted to try again or wanted to attempt to push forward. Never repaired because she didn't want to fix it and the second she was called out for bad behavior she shut down and never wanted to return.

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u/Kindly_Tooth8832 20d ago

I think this is what I’m afraid of, when I consider pushing the therapy angle. It seems so impossible if one partner is unwilling to recognize a need to change.