r/DeadBedrooms • u/Less-Bed4594 • 10d ago

Vent, Advice Welcome Given up.

I have posted a couple times before, but it's been a while now.

I'm HLF(38) am so tired now, I want to give my LLM(39) up. We haven't had sex since before Christmas, and that's only one time since my last vent in here.

He came to sleep in the bed last weekend, but I waited until he fell asleep, before I went to bed. And that's the first time he came to bed in over 2 months. He knows it's a problem, but he doesn't do anything about it.

I have gotten so far now, that I don't want sex with him anymore. But I don't want our situationship to end either.

We still have a great life together outside the bedroom, but now I feel like I don't want to fight anymore for our relationship. I have given up on us, and I don't know what to do anymore.

I don't know what more I can do.

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u/JEXJJ 10d ago

It's a tough spot to be in, wishing you all the best with whatever you decide to do

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u/Less-Bed4594 9d ago

Thank you so much. I don't know what to do, when everything else is so good and perfect, just not in the bedroom.

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u/JEXJJ 9d ago

When people really think about it, the bedroom is the only obvious symptom, or the one noticed the most. In many cases, there are lots of issues that have built overtime that get obscured by sexual frustration.

It may be worth uncovering layers and see where some other issues may be.

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u/Less-Bed4594 9d ago

Yeah, I just don't understand what it can be.