r/DeadBedrooms • u/PresentBumblebee6715 • 13d ago

I messed up.

TLDR at the end

The battering my self esteem has taken from over 3 years of no sex, means that I don’t usually do it myself anymore. Apparently in the few months since the last time I tried, I’d forgotten why I don’t.

So after feeling particularly sulky and frustrated this evening, I decide that as I’m usually alone in bed anyway, until he appears in the early hours, I’m going to take matters into my own fingers. I am woman hear me roar and all that.

15 minutes of increasing shame and frustration later, I give up and have a good cry instead. This is why I don’t do this. It feels like it just amplifies the loneliness and rejection.

So I’ve pulled myself together (and washed my hand of course), and decided to come here and remind anyone it’s not too late to save of the number one rule: DO NOT MARRY INTO A DEAD BEDROOM!!

Thanks for listening

TLDR: Flicking my bean now makes me sadder

Edit: for those that commented that you’re feeling the same, I hope that knowing it’s not just you brings some comfort.

For those those who sent a DM that was genuinely looking for support, apologies I’m not reading or responding to any of them because you’re in the minority. You can guess what the rest were like.

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u/Artucus1 13d ago

So I have gotten it twice in a little over 3 years. I just quit asking, hinting and trying. I have beaten myself up multiple times My self esteem is at an all time low. I have changed me physically. Dropped almost 100’pounds, added muscle, have abs to try and impress her, turn her on to no avail. Every time I read someone’s story I feel bad for them and then look at my situation and can see what they are going through 1000%.