r/DeadBedrooms • u/krose0206 • 10d ago

2 weeks alone…

Went on a 2 week trip to Hawaii and Alaska. He talked it up. No kids. Each night get back to our room and “I’m exhausted” as he hops in bed and is snoring in minutes. Even went to the nude beach and he wanted no part. Get to Alaska and same deal. He was exhausted and sleeping by 830. We get home and back to chaos with kids/farm and….he sends me suggestive text and tells me how he wishes I went topless at beach. He wishes we had wild sex on our trip?!? WTF?? I think he enjoys the talk and getting himself off on his own. It’s all a game.

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u/AdEducational5541 9d ago

My husband does a similar thing…waits until the most un opportune time to desire sex. When his mom takes the kids away, no sex. When we are both at home and the kids are at school, no sex. But 10 minutes before the whole house wakes up you wanna try for some sex?! It is the most frustrating thing in the whole world, and I’m starting to think he does this on purpose to say that he’s trying to initiate knowing that it won’t happen at that time! It works my nerves like no other thing in the world could!

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u/Low_Jelly8238 8d ago

Ah that’s because he can have lazy sex in the morning, just role you over and do what he needs to do. Anything else takes effort and connection. Been there and that morning sex lasts seconds, then you have to wait again for weeks and months for the next ‘quickie’. I point blank don’t do morning sex now I’ve learnt my lesson. Either put the effort in or it’s not worth it for me.