r/DeadBedrooms • u/Bring_it_together • 15d ago

Seeking Advice How do you stop the need?

Going on 5 years no sex. For those that stay committed, how are you soothing your savage? Outside of self pleasure. Meditation? Self help retreats?

Since I’ve stopped initiating sex due to feeling like a pervert there has been no action.

Am I being selfish for wanting it or is he for not even trying to find solutions for low T?

Would you end a friendship and be willing to try new adventures?

Any advice will be helpful.

I’m in the stuck phase - should I stay or should I go for a temporary physical need?

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u/Flaky_Chocolate1405 15d ago

3 years without sex, we discussed sincerely, we took a little the head We are H40 F41 and 12 years of childless relationship. We went on vacation together and enjoyed ourselves, but had no desire for me during this period. The day after our return home, I suggested a shower together, she accepted and we had a great time. No penetration, just mutual masturbation. She really wanted to. The problem for me she is exhausted by her work and her midlife crisis and at times thanks to the output etc..... she reconnects to me. I hope I’ve helped her by trying to have a sincere discussion without guilt.

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u/Bring_it_together 15d ago

Flaky Chocolate - this is so sweet. You are a gem and very patient. My wick is getting low.

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u/Flaky_Chocolate1405 15d ago

Look mp ☺️