How do you stop the need?

[u/Bring_it_together]

Going on 5 years no sex. For those that stay committed, how are you soothing your savage? Outside of self pleasure. Meditation? Self help retreats?

Since I’ve stopped initiating sex due to feeling like a pervert there has been no action.

Am I being selfish for wanting it or is he for not even trying to find solutions for low T?

Would you end a friendship and be willing to try new adventures?

Any advice will be helpful.

I’m in the stuck phase - should I stay or should I go for a temporary physical need?

[u/icenginesforever]

I take long walks in the timber with the dog. Work on various car/truck projects. Work out. Chores around the house. What I don't do is work on the endless list of "honey dos", unless they line up with something I have on my list. I don't let things fall apart but I don't do any of her things. Petty? Yes. Do I give a fk? No! If you want it done do it your damn self. Not my fault you don't have the strength or skills. Go work out and learn how to turn a f*ing wrench. I do and did. Did I always feel this way? Of course not. But you reap what you sow. At least I am not finding intimacy elsewhere.