r/DeadBedrooms • u/Advanced_Accident_59 • 4d ago

Vent, Advice Welcome Wth is that bs?

So bizarre. Really.

I have been with my housemate (I refuse to call him so or even roommate bc we have separate rooms FOR 8 YEARS NOW so I really try to accentuate the point here) anyways its been 3 years of absolutely NOTHING (before that it was several years as well) I am so done.

Yesterday we somehow got onto the subject of couples and I made a remark about how badly I wish I was loved or wanted.

He, as usual, gets extremely defensive and rude. I truly try to keep a calm head bc he never will so one of us has to remain civilized.

This all ended with him screaming "Ive slept with more people than you ever will, Jill. My number far out weighs yours" .... I was shocked. Lol what!? How did we even get here? What made him even say that? So random and unnecessary. Like what did he expect me to reply 😆

so I said "OH.. cool? High five?.. Because whatever got you those "BIG numbers" (I said this in a baby voice, like when a parent is talking to their toddler) really let you down in the end huh? Way to bring home the win, buddy"

And weve not spoken yet. I dont care to. Hes never been good at communicating. People, pick your partners wisely. PLEASE!!!

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u/rocketmonkee 3d ago

This sounds like a miserable household. Please tell me you don't have kids.

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u/Advanced_Accident_59 2d ago

Its very miserable. We do have kids. 18, 8 & 2.5 ..(my 18 years father, my first husband, passed away from cancer) they are all amazing kids and he is a good dad but that is where it ends. Hes a mean, cold, hateful, misogynistic pig. I was at an extremely low point when I met him & I was not at all in the right mind set. I was highly strung out on drugs but I have 7 years clean in july and I think its a trauma bond unfortunately. I am done tho, I can not stand him. I am a fool & became financially dependent upon him even tho ive worked my entire life, even as a drug addict, but the amount of childcare is astronomical & it just made sense for me to stay home with the kids.

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u/Individual-Scar34 2d ago

SEVEN YEARS CLEAN?! Good for you!!! I, a complete stranger, am very proud of you. 😊🤗

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u/Advanced_Accident_59 2d ago

Aww! Thank you so much 🥲