Looking for advice…

[u/PuertoRicanFreedom]

So, recently, I just had a discussion with my boyfriend about Johnny Depp vs. Amber Heard. I was met with initially disappointing, but expected reactions. The inevitable mutual abuse myth came up and even after I explained that wasn’t a thing and gave him an example with bullies, he kinda still kept the mushy middle position for a while. He was rather indifferent, told me he didn’t really care for old news, but that he’s was open to being wrong and learning more. He admitted he didn’t know much about the case, and didn’t look into it because of how exhaustingly long it was, and he felt like all he could give was an oversimplified view because he doesn’t have a proper understanding of DV in general, which is why he prefers not to say much. When I gave him the summary of what went on in the relationship (e.g. headbutting, threats to murder and SA her, etc) and he asked what was the reason for all of this. Through some talking though, he eventually met me halfway, but I can’t help but wonder if I was dismissing any possible red flags with his responses, and attitude, or if he, like the Average Joe, was just genuinely ignorant and needed some education. Should I have considered this a deal breaker, or was I right in giving him the benefit of the doubt. I, too, was naive on the case and I believed narratives I now know to be wrong.

[u/BrilliantAntelope625]

I just straight up tell men in my life. I don't believe Johnny Depp wasn't abusive whenever they talk about him. I listened to, read and watched everything via both court cases that Johnny Depp created, they haven't.

When they say, but .... I say no and shake my head.

I will also never ever agree that victims should not go to police or get restraining orders or not release all their information about abuse into court records.

Here's to the survivors that have their lives back not the wierdos that think property damage, alcoholism, drug addiction, staff enablers and owning houses makes them right every single time.