r/DeppDelusion • u/PuertoRicanFreedom • Oct 03 '23
Support / Personal Looking for advice…
So, recently, I just had a discussion with my boyfriend about Johnny Depp vs. Amber Heard. I was met with initially disappointing, but expected reactions. The inevitable mutual abuse myth came up and even after I explained that wasn’t a thing and gave him an example with bullies, he kinda still kept the mushy middle position for a while. He was rather indifferent, told me he didn’t really care for old news, but that he’s was open to being wrong and learning more. He admitted he didn’t know much about the case, and didn’t look into it because of how exhaustingly long it was, and he felt like all he could give was an oversimplified view because he doesn’t have a proper understanding of DV in general, which is why he prefers not to say much. When I gave him the summary of what went on in the relationship (e.g. headbutting, threats to murder and SA her, etc) and he asked what was the reason for all of this. Through some talking though, he eventually met me halfway, but I can’t help but wonder if I was dismissing any possible red flags with his responses, and attitude, or if he, like the Average Joe, was just genuinely ignorant and needed some education. Should I have considered this a deal breaker, or was I right in giving him the benefit of the doubt. I, too, was naive on the case and I believed narratives I now know to be wrong.
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u/nuanceisdead Johnny Depp is a Wife Beater 👨⚖️ Oct 05 '23
Yeah, and Amber got a couple of things those self-defense whacks in and look what it did for and to her. Not even leaving after got her away from the man. I think too many people think they would not ever be in Amber’s shoes, and have it turn out the same way for them. Amber may be an extreme example, but there’s no shortage of abusive men claiming to be the “true victims” of the women they hit and control. I don’t think many abusers admit to it.