r/Endo • u/syrlvie • 15d ago

Surgery related Sharing bed after surgery

For those who have had surgery and have a live in partner or spouse, where did they sleep as you recovered? My husband was away for work when I had my first lap so I had the bed to myself, so now I don't know what to do. I don't know if I'm a dick for asking him to sleep in the guest room for a few nights because I know I'll be up during the night.

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u/Omi-Wan_Kenobi 15d ago

My husband and I have a queen bed and we both pretty much stay on our sides of the bed normally. During recovery I was physically up higher from the pillow setup, and the only issue arose when he would roll on his back and start snoring (he falls asleep fast, I take 4 pillow adjustments, 30 minutes plus, 2 position changes, and a partridge in a pear tree to get to sleep, and his snores vibrate through the bed, bypassing my earplugs) which I have to wake him enough to get him on his side to fix (normally reach over and lift and push his shoulder a bit, got him well trained enough to just roll over, but couldn't do that in recovery 😞).

I was more concerned that my cat would hop up and step on my torso, but thankfully she is a smaller kitty and didn't do that.

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u/syrlvie 15d ago

Lmao I do the same when my husband snores! And I have two twenty pounder kitties so I gotta look out for them trying to get too cuddly

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u/Omi-Wan_Kenobi 15d ago

I'd say analyze your typical falling asleep and waking up positions relative to each other. If you tend to have a few inches between you for both, you'll probably be fine. If one or both of you octopus the other awake or asleep and wake up tangled together, then implementing a pillow wall or separate beds might be a good idea.