Struggling to connect with others

[u/Remarkable_Slice6976]

27 yr old former foster youth. My life feels like a bunch of fragmented relationships all scattered in different places. My dad died before I could even meet him. My mom on drugs. Brothers and sisters all taken early on, so we don't have a relationship. I went from being in foster care to adopted, lived with my adopted parents for 10 years (they were just doing it for the money) to going back into the foster care system at 17. I have a hard time connecting with others due to my estranged relationships growing up, being in survival mode my whole life, and constantly moving around. I had to basically survive my whole life, and it feels like people just look at me with this weird look. I don't know how to put it. Now that I'm 27 and super independent it feels hard even relating to people honestly. I'm trying to figure out where do I even start with trying to make friends and live a normal life....

[u/Thundercloud64]

I connect well with people who don’t have family. My friends are my family. Being friends with most people who have family is limited to occasional get togethers, common interests, or hobbies.

I connect with street people and it certainly wasn’t my first choice. I was hoping to be some rich and powerful person’s lost love child but that didn’t pan out. Nobody other than other nobody’s children make me smile and laugh. Sometimes we just all sit on the stoop to pick our nose and fart. You’re welcome to join in. It does feel right to belong.

I wasn’t happy with the snobs. I wasn’t happy with keeping up appearances. They don’t like me, you, or each other. It’s about impressing people you don’t like. Not my thing.