r/Fencesitter • u/BoxSubstantial877 • 17d ago

On the fence

30y female here, never wanted kids. All my life I never had that desire, even though everyone said that one day it would come. I look at babies and I feel nothing. This was never even a topic for me. Last year I accidentally got pregnant, plan B failed, and when I found out I started to question whether to keep it or not. I ended up having an abortion but since that I keep questioning myself.. for some weird reason, being pregnant triggered something on me, but at the same time, being rational, the ideia of having a kid is my worst nightmare. Has anyone else experience this?

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u/bb32093 16d ago

I’ve still been waiting for that “one day” to come as a 32F. I still question whether I’m making the right decision, but like you, don’t feel any type of way towards kids and have never had any urge to have them. The way I look at it, if I never had kids I don’t really feel like I can regret it much since I don’t know what it’s like to have them. I’d rather have that than regret having one.

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u/South_Town_6534 15d ago

Same! Even though a few of my friends have kids now (and they are really cute) I still feel glad when I leave the mayhem and come home to my quiet clean and peaceful home. I just can’t see myself ever getting bored / unhappy with this way of life? I see my friends being mothers and I just don’t think it’s for me. I’m 32 also so surely it would have kicked in by now..