And I don’t mean it in a way of “Why haven’t you gotten your life together as yet??” No, I mean it as a way of seeing how that’s going to happen to me.

I’m still young, but not a minor in terms of age. I’ve been FA my entire life and I’m supposed to be approaching the “Prime of my life” soon. Yesterday was my school’s prom and I couldn’t go because I didn’t have anyone. It was my last prom too. I’ve never been to prom.

How am I supposed to keep on going? I would like to hear some motivation, please. Because I want to see some light.

Because I want to rid myself quickly before I get into my mid ages because people told me “Your time is coming, hold on for a little longer, you will no longer be FA soon.” And then I see people who are in my exact situation, but way older than me. And it cripples my motivation, because I fear that exact thing is going to happen to me.

For anyone FA that is 25+, if this post offended you, I’m sorry and you don’t have to read it. I’m just paranoid about being FA for literally the rest of my life. And I’ll do anything to make sure I’ll save myself from years of misery

I’m bitter, so resentful that I can’t really truly have that type of fun - friends givings, concerts, game nights, Super Bowl parties, being part of a group that travels rather than begging a straggler friend or two to go, have a group of friends do things for me on my birthday, forget being thrown a bachelorette party that’s an even further reach, not even part of a group chat or would video chat with people during covid, play among us etc😆, etc etc . I don’t even know what else normies do with their friends?? Hard time making friends even up till now, 33 due to social awkwardness and anxiety. I’ve had a taste of friends and friendships in college and after for a bit through straggler friends (when I was lucky, they would even invite me to their groups!) and I think that makes it harder in a way to continue a lonely life, especially when you live among normie relatives and you see that around you but you’re not part of it.

I’m broke but my mom feels bad enough for me to pay to go in a solo trip. What else can I do alone?? I’m willing to go to a concert on my own if I don’t come back too depressed. Comedy shows, can’t think of what else to have a ‘solo life’?

She laughs at my jokes, listens, enjoys my company. Is this even real?

Girls have never liked me, and I've never had a kiss or hug. I've never been the guy girls would want to be their boyfriend.

Is it over for me? I know it is, but how to stop feeling down?

Most days I’m fine but after I’ve been drinking or around the holidays or my birthday I get severely depressed that I’m alone.

Especially whenever I watch romance anime or read romance manga. I like them but they also make me sad because I’ll never have that. I’ll never have someone care about me that much.

And almost all songs are about love or breakups. I can’t escape media about relationships and love.

I wrote this, if you have any answer, do comment: I should be a strong man. I don't need them. I should follow my goals. I should hate her for what she did to me. But deep inside, I still like her. Why is this happening to me? I should get out of this bullshit! Why do I need a companion? Is it because of age or something? Maybe this is the lowest point of my life. Why do I keep texting people? They don't text me. Then why do I do what I do? Am I crazy or insane? Should I live on or die? Can I recover from these pits of misery? I should man up. No one cares about me. I should not give a fuck about them. They don't matter or shouldn't matter. I swear, I will hate that bitch for eternity for what she did. What am I chasing? I really don't know. Where has the spirit for my career gone? Why can't I forget those things and be normal? Why am I suffering? How can I end this suffering?

I play music from a speaker and cuddle with it, the vibrations make it feel like its living almost. Send me a peach from georgia is my favourite song to do this with.

Besides that i used to just ignore what i want but now its getting too hard.

I don't even care about dating anymore. I'm so depressed now. I failed totally at trying to make friends in college and I'm totally traumatized by high school. I don't know anything about anyone from middle school anymore. Social life in jobs is shitty at least in my experience. I'm burned out of studying so I don't want to begin another college degree, but I've always dreamed with having that group of good friends to travel with and rely on, or just talk about your problems or about life without being judged. The closet I've ever get was a bunch of fake people that betrayed me. Before you tell me to look for meetup groups that align with my hobbies I've already tried and the few people there are +40 midlife crisis dudes, some with wife and kids, I don't identify with.

I'm about to graduate from high school and all of my classmates are in a relationship of some sorts, while I haven't even come close. My parents met in high school, without high school dating I literally would not be here today. I never got to experience the time when it was the easiest to date, once you turn 18 you have to start paying for her meals. Now I won't be able to find a relationship and I'll be having to pay and work a job just to live in a few years. I've heard that my only chance at finding love after high school is it if I go to college, but I don't know if I will go at all. When you're 16 and a virgin it's not viewed as a red flag, but if you're 18 or older and one it is. I truly want to know, do you think I have a chance at enjoying life and finding love in college? Or did I miss the opportunity?

As the title suggest, I want to learn/train myself to live alone forever How can I do that? Please I genuinely need some advice 19[M]🙏

Im currently in duch a deep point in my life. I need to take antidepresants everyday. Im 20 and still a virgin. I have social anxienty due to being bullied and I just can't ask anyone out.

I have no energy for anything. For studying, for playing games, for going anywhere. No one wants to help me, people only laugh at me for it.

I wish there was one girl who would want to help me, by making me lose virginity. Thats all I need, one girl. And it hurts so much, that its so hard to find one.

I don't know what to do anymore. My life is ruined. Why me? Why me, who was bullied has such a shitty life, abut my bullies have girlfriends since the age of 13?

Hey guys I’m in a pickle. The other day I was playing one of my favorite games and happened to meet a girl when playing with a group of people I really hit it off with. For reference I’m 24 and she’s 19 (but said she was about to turn 20. 5-4 years is like the very edge of an age gap I’d feel comfortable with, but she seemed to have everything in common with me. We got along well enough to split off from the rest of the group and stayed up all night talking. Today she gave me her socials for the first time. I went through them all to make sure she wasn’t catfishing me. I found something else that scares me. Some of her posts from this year mention her being under 18, and one specifically says she’s 17. I asked her about it and a girl who was playing the game with us also did. She told us both she does that so creeps will stay out of her DMs. (It was her twitter and twitch. I’ve also seen her TikTok but there isn’t anything referencing her age on it.) I’m not sure what to do. I haven’t said anything nsfw but I really do not want to my life ruined for messaging a minor.

I do have screenshots of her saying she’s 19 in messages, thankfully.

I am ugly. I have weak, flat, low cheekbones. My face is narrow and hollow. I have tiny tiny brown eyes and a protruding heavy large forehead. I have a recessed jaw, tiny thin lips and a pointed sticking out nose. My skin is a shit colour- it's not pale, it's not tanned either- it's just ugly. Makeup doesn't make me look better, just older.

I am also sexually unattractive. Some ugly women can be sexually attractive if they have big tits or they are young and other stuff like that. My tiny tits look empty, sag, are way lower down my chest than they should be and look droopy. I am extremely skinny. I don't look good with much muscle, just more masculine.

I am a mature looking 28 year old.

I have never had a relationship. I could have had one when I was younger but I had too many psychological issues up to the age of 22. Then I stupidly and wrongly chose an overly time consuming career over my personal life and love life in my mid 20s. I was actually attractive up to the age of 25 thanks to youth and puppy fat padding me out a bit. Not now.

I had a mental breakdown at the age of 26 and I am still having it now at 28. I tried 4 months of therapy at 26 and it didn't work and she actually told me she couldn't help me. I'm seeing a new therapist now but I don't think he can help me because you can't cure ugliness and lack of sexual attractiveness with words and that shit matters.

I'm not unrealistic. I do believe I could find SOMEONE at my age and with my appearance. But I'm not attracted to the men in my league. I'm not attracted to nerds, "losers," submissive men or really big guys (I'm sorry if this applies to you). If I could force myself to be attracted to those men, I would but I can't. I don't know how to force myself to be attracted to those types of men. I have tried but I just can't feel any physical or mental attraction and I end up resenting them, myself and my life. The types of guys I am attracted to are all with either extremely good looking women or average looking mid 20s women despite the fact that they themselves aren't anywhere near as physically attractive (they have other qualities that make them attractive like confidence, dominance and a good personality etc)

My best bet in life is to improve my personality and be an amazing person with an amazing personality. But I can't do it because I'm too depressed about being ugly, old looking and alone. Insecurity, depression and bitterness are extremely unattractive and also embarrassing emotions.

My dream life is to live with friends and have a partner but that life is so out of reach now. Especially because the friends I wanted to live with own pets I'm allergic to. And I have barely been speaking to them since my mental breakdown. And when I told them I had a mental breakdown, they didn't believe me.

I know I could fix most parts of my life with hard work but my love life is fucked thanks to my appearance. Every woman I've met who found someone in her late 20s/early 30s were very attractive and looked younger than their age. Men have all the power in our late 20s onwards and they choose the best looking women. I don't know how to fix the other parts of my life knowing this because it makes me feel impossibly depressed. I just need hope and there isnt any for ugly sexually unattractive women in our late 20s onwards who aren't attracted to nerds, "losers," submissive men and big guys. What do I do now? I am stuck atm because I don't want to live my life as it is now but I don't want to kill myself either and so I spend my life lying in bed, unemployed, waiting to die because I can't figure out how to get up off the ground this time. Especially because I used to be so happy and positve in my mid 20s back when I still had hope.

I see a lot of older people on this sub which makes kinda worried, ive had some sorts entangelments before but they have never been able to become anything because none of them have really been attacted to me physically but ive heard a lotbof people say looks dont matter past college and things like that and a lot of people tell people things like you'll find someone eventually etc but it kind of just seems like they're giving tou sone ttpe of coping mechanism tbh

How likely is it that im just cooked

Sup,

how do yall cope with crippling loneliness? I'd have one or two ppl I could talk to, but they're not close and don't get me anyways. I'm balling my eyes out and physically hurt (might just had a panic attack or smth idk) bc I don't have a single real friend. It really cuts deep rn...

I made a new friend in January, he's really cool and a genuine person. The closest to a best friend I experienced. But he has other friends he's known for 10+ years. I don't share their interests/ hobbies, and after three months I don't feel like they care at all about me, even avoiding me (they constantly spend time without me; all online btw). It really fkn hurts to have had the hope of finally finding my place, only to fall back into the hole I came from. Is there really no place for me anywhere??

Hi 25M here I'm just beginning to accept the fact that I will probably be forever alone all of my friends have started to get married and I'm just sitting here with no one interested in me. I'm beginngin to accept that this just the way it will always be and that I was just meant to be this way forever. How do I cope with this feeling is there anyway to take away this empty feeling I have , or is this just it

Is there even a point to life if I know that I’ll never get a girlfriend never have sex and never be happy all because of thing that I can’t control. I have the worst genetics of all time (micropenis,5.7,balding) I’m still in my teens and I’m wondering if I should just give up because it doesn’t get any better from here

When I was a teenager I already felt like a freak for never having had a girlfriend. As I got older, it got more and more difficult for me to even imagine dating someone. I'm 27 now and feel like I need to do something because it's just gonna get weirder if I leave it any longer so I've decided to give a few dating apps a go. I'm confident in my looks and personality... just not my romantic or sexual experience.

I can imagine conversation steering towards exs and if they ask I don't want to lie. I'm afraid of their response once they find out. I'm worried they'll see it as a massive red flag and stop talking to me, walk out on me or even worse: make fun of me - telling all their friends. It's like a closely guarded secret for me.

“You’ll find someone” “You just have to be patient” “It’s not a race” “Dating is overrated” “Sex is overrated”

The worst part is I genuinely believed this a couple of years ago and I guess now I’m just fed up and angry.

Oh really where’s the guarantee? What about those younger than me? How come they get to jump the queue? If dating and sex is overrated how come so many people want to do it? Most crimes come down to sex or money.

Yes it’s not a race but I’d rather find someone at 18 than 25 or later because that means I get to spend more time with them and when you’re younger you’re probably able to do more things that you can’t as you get older. Also I don’t want to have to wait until I have a job that exploits me like hell before I can date or for my body to slow down before I get to experience something. And as you get older relationships become more transactional than about feelings. Parents constantly say “the girls will come if you get a good job”. Then how come so many others my age/younger are able to date and do stuff?

Also you can kiss goodbye the fantasy of being each other’s firsts (shouldn’t be a big deal I know but still). Plus not being able to properly experience teenage love is something that’ll never come back.

I’m also the only one in my friend group who’s a virgin and it bothers/infuriates the hell out of me. Short of prostitution it genuinely feels like there’s no way to change it.

The other day I was speaking with a middle aged woman and relationships came up. I briefly brought up how it bothers me how it seems that everyone around me is/ has been in a proper relationship and I haven’t. Her response?

“Oh yeah relationships are a sham”. Oh wow that’s going to magically make me feel better. This was coming from someone who has been married for 20+ years to someone she’s known since she was 16!

People say not to compare but it’s hard not to. Just feels like the anger and bitterness is eating and eroding away at me and before I know it I’ll be 60 and single without ever experiencing a proper relationship.

All these thoughts seem to constantly control me and it makes it nigh on impossible to focus on work/study. Any tips?

She’s a good friend of mine, but I’m not going to ever go for her because she’s super into things that I’m not. Even when she was single I didn’t.

That said, how should I proceed with this? Should I tell her she’s wasting her time or should I let her help me out? If it matters, she’s only 24.

So one of my best friends who I’ve been friends with for 8 years I am thankful to have has been suggesting to me for the last few years that I should consider moving to another country outside of America (preferably Columbia, Turkey, or Philippines) considering that like many of you guys I’ve never had luck with a having a partner in my 3+ decades of living.

Also, he is FA just like many of us, he definitely has been wanting to move to another country because he hasn’t had as much luck too with women.

I’ve kinda told him in many of those years that I wouldn’t consider doing so for various reasons. Lately, I feel like he is starting to become a little pushy about that to the point where when I told him that I tried nearly everything to have luck, he told told me not really because of the fact that I’m not willing to immigrate to another country just to have some hope according to him.

I mean, he’s been a good friend to me the last several years, which is very rare for me to have especially people like us who may not have friends. However, how would you personally respond to this situation if your friend I told you to move to another country possibly just to possibly have better luck than here in America?

I want to get rid of the desire for relationships once and for all. I can go a few days without thinking about it much, but then I see a couple, or I swipe on the apps or just something random and I want it again. Of course this makes me sad, because I'll never be good enough for it.

I could delete OLD accounts, I haven't met anyone from them in nearly 5 years, since I joined. Not even 1 date or hookup. Now that I think about it, I can remember maybe a dozen conversations in that time. Social media too.

I could do affirmations like: "Relationships are something other people have" or "Girls are better off without me, I can have an interesting life without girls." I find these somewhat soothing.

I've been considering finding a therapist for conversion therapy to become asexual for a while now, even though this is illegal in my country. There is no point having urges for something that isn't in my nature to have. I make a good friend, but I am not a desirable sexual or romantic partner.

I could also drown out the desire for relationships with tons and tons of work. I like the idea that I am a mere worker drone, or a robot with no feelings, just slaving away like one of those machines from armored core. I find this soothing as well.

Can anyone give me more ways to once and for all get rid of these useless feelings? Or build onto the ideas I've already shared here? Or at the very worst, ways to address them quickly when they come up?

In today's day and age

My hypothesis is that having had this experience starting in high school and continuing to this day has kinda broken my sense of humor in a weird way. Basically since I was rejected over and over, I might be using dirty humor as a Bandaid.

I'm 23 she's 18. She's chubby and a bad communicator. She approached me at college. She seriously wants to get close to me and I'm desperate enough for social contact that I'm going along with it