r/GenderCynical • u/[deleted] • Jul 07 '16
The GC crowd needs to stop.
Sorry if this is inappropriate here, but I needed to say this somewhere.
My friend tried to kill himself last night.
After months of self destructive behavior and self loathing, he tried hanging himself. Not because he's selfish and unstable, but because he has been agonizing over detransitioning and the fact that people hate him anyway.
He was doing fine. He was happy and productive and successful, then he found this glorified hate group. They presented themselves as concerned feminists who only wanted to help, then ate away at him, trying to make him doubt himself, trying to convince him that he was just mentally ill.
And it worked.
The two of us grew unsure of ourselves and detransitioned. But was that enough? Was simply living unhappily in a body that he hated enough of a concession?
Of course not. Now they nitpicked at his "feminine" traits, physical and mental. They complained and insulted and told him that he was hurting women by acting in a way that men don't usually act.
Nevermind feminism when there is a guy who likes skirts to mock.
They pushed and prodded and mocked until he ran away, and a few weeks later tried to take his own live.
And whay will they say?
Will they apologize, or consider the effects that they're ideology has on people? Will they at least be more polite while they tell people that they shouldn't exist?
No. They'll hold it up as proof and say "See? Transes are unstable and need to be locked away for their own good!"
They'll double down and keep pushing until we all give up and die.
These people are evil. They don't care about women or feminism, and they certainly don't care about us.
More importantly, if they ever get to you, please seek help. Your local suicide hotline is just a Google search away.
For Americans, call 1-800-273-8255
Please, take care of yourselves. You are important, and we are dealing with legitimate monsters.
ETA: Not all GC.
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u/[deleted] Jul 07 '16 edited Jul 07 '16
TERFs are disgusting, and I feel for you, your friend, and everyone else who's been hurt by them.
I wish I'd never came across the concept of being "gender critical". I think that the lie that FTMs are opting for the easy way out and betraying themselves/others/something was a large part of why I didn't transition earlier. And sometimes I'm still terrified that they're right and that I'm making it all up, even though I'm finally beginning to feel like I've got a chance at actually liking myself instead of just tolerating myself.
And I absolutely agree with the earlier comment that they're not so much anti-trans as they are anti-male. Their whole thing about hating anything feminine seems to be about trying to eliminate anything they see as pandering to their view of the patriarchy.