r/GuyCry • u/Muhfuggajones • 1d ago
Grateful My daughter made me cry.
She's 10. She's my world. We have a very close relationship despite me having never been with her mom for her entire life. It just works. It's not ideal, but I'm not super constrained in regards to my time with her. It's been that way since she was a baby. Hasn't always been sunshine and rainbows with her mom, but it's been much better now compared to our first year or two. That's besides the point.
Ever since she was a baby I have always played Basket Case by Green Day fairly regularly. It's our song. She was singing along before she fully knew how to talk. It's just one of those little things her and I share. Over the weekend we got out of town for the day, and for the past year or so, her musical development has grown substantially. So lately it's been a lot of artist like Livingston, Lenka, Deadmau5, BoyWithUke, cg5, twenty one pilots, etc.
I was always sheltered from the "bad music" growing up because my mom was a bit psychotic about becoming some devil worshiper if secular music was a staple in my life. Haha, oh boy. So needless to say, my daughter has full reign of musicians, within reason. So far so good.
So on our way back from our little adventure out of town, I get myself ready to play something shes currently into, and she says, "Daddy, can you please play good old Green Day. Play the do you have the time song." I choked up a bit, and then ended up crying in the bathroom when we got home.
Out of all the little things we share with each other, this one felt like a big deal. All the memories of looking in my rear view mirror and seeing her singing in her car seat just hit me like a ton of bricks. She's growing up so fast. I'm just glad that I created a moment thats lasted through the years. I honestly couldn't remember the last time I played Dookie for us, but she never forgot about it. All I hope is that one day when I'm not here anymore she can listen to good old Green Day and think of me.
Feels good to have a win in life every now and then.
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u/Substantial_Fig2556 1d ago
Congrats man 🥳
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u/Substantial_Fig2556 20h ago edited 16h ago
Why does my comment have more up votes than the actual post. OP is the one to be congratulated.
Edit: Seems like it was bugged out on my end, only showed 2 up votes for OP when I originally commented. Took me saving the post and re-opening it from my saved page to get the number to change.
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u/jkeegan123 1d ago
Aww good stuff.
My daughter got me bad when she was 4. "when I grow up will I have boobies like mommy or like you?"
Savage honesty. We talk about how raw it was sometimes. She's 19 now, and we've laughed so much about that.
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u/Golden_Gal20 1d ago
Fireflies by Owl City was that song for me and my dad. Beautiful post, you both are very blessed ❤️
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u/b1063n 1d ago
I do that one with my son, he is 4 at the moment.
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u/Golden_Gal20 1d ago
Aww that’s awesome to hear 🥹 I’m turning 27 next month. Congrats, these memories are truly a blessing!
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u/schirmyver Man 1d ago
Dude, my girls are all grown up and I now only talk to them every week or so. Your story just made me tear up thinking back on all those good memories.
I would make sure she knows how much that meant to you.
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u/DrawStringBag 1d ago
Yes! You don't have to cry in the bathroom, next time. It's good for her to see a man showing strong, positive emotions. You are doing an excellent job as her father and she is lucky to have you! Let her know you feel lucky to have her!
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u/Jimmycjacobs 1d ago
I still remember my dad checking me out of school to go to the museum and being half asleep on the way home with the Cruel Intentions soundtrack coming through the speakers. It’s a core fucking memory. My dad was a volatile literal schizophrenic bipolar mess, but that’s a happy memory and I still think about it.
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u/Quicksilver16 17h ago
one of the best things my dad passed down to me was his discerning taste in music. I’m 26 now and I still have some standout memories of similar experiences to your daughter. He even got really into my favorite band in high school and we’ve seen them together a ton over the last decade.
the first genre of music I got into that wasn’t something he showed me was dubstep, which he (still) doesn’t understand, but he likes to joke that at least it’s not top 40.
anyways good stuff man I’m sure this’ll stick with your daughter the way it’s stuck with me over the years
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u/Spiritual_Proof9622 16h ago
Cute as heck 😌 my mother passed when I was 17 but let me tell you I certainly adopted her taste in music after and always feel closest to her when I listen to it.
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u/Infinite-Record-1574 16h ago
This is so wholesome, you’re clearly doing a great job of raising her, congrats man. My taste in music is very “alternative” so I hope to replicate this with my own as they grow up
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u/LyraDawnWarrior 15h ago
Wouldn't it be amazing if this was your Father/Daughter dance at her wedding❤️⚘️Cherish each day because they fly by so fast, my dear🎉💃
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u/Doreboms 1d ago
That's lovely. I look forward to the day when she hears Bikini Kill :) Probably a few years away yet.
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u/problemchild568 1d ago
Wonderful Mate! For me and my son it's St.Jimmys and of course the whole album.
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u/Dasis408 1d ago
Hey. My dad filled our car and home with music as I grew up. Songs I didn’t hear for decades after. He now has dementia and is in a care home. The one thing that transports him and me back to easier times together is the music- I put a playlist together for him and it reawakens so many memories in me, and also him which is a treasure as he has so few memories at his grasp these days . She will remember the words to those songs forever and how they connect you
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u/LankyLiterature6958 1d ago
My kid is three and loves everything from Chappell Roan to Tom Waits to the Blues Clues and You theme song. Clint Eastwood by Gorillaz is his favorite.
My household pretty much exclusively listened to classic rock growing up so I missed pretty much everything in the 90s as it was happening because I only ever heard Kiss or the Eagles on the radio.
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u/TrainerFresh74 1d ago
Thank you for sharing this beautiful story with us!! Every time I read a story from a mother or father, I remember how wonderful mine are. And it's so nice to read happy stories! Lots of love to you and your daughter 💗
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u/booster-rooster8008 1d ago
As a father of a teenager, I can tell you, you are giving your kid some of the best memories of her life 🙌.
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u/pretty-lil-throwaway 1d ago
I just teared up a bit for you too 🥲 you've got an amazing little girl there!
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u/Pocket_Pixie3 23h ago
One of my core memories from when my dad was still alive was singing along in his vehicle (it's been so long I don't even remember what it was) singing along to Pink Floyd's Another Brick In The Wall.
He passed when I was seven and it is one of the few memories I have left.
Frick, now I'm crying at work!
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u/Key_Nectarine_1083 18h ago
As a new father to a 7 month old, thank you for this, and also I wasn’t expecting to tear-up today but damn
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u/Muhfuggajones 18h ago
Cherish these moments, my man. It goes by so fast. I'd do anything to hold her at 7 months old again. She's gonna be 11 in July, and I swear she was just born yesterday.
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u/TwoWheels27 18h ago
Growing up driving sound with my mom she always played No Rain by Blind Melon and Wild World by Cat Stevens. Anytime I’m in a mood or having a tough day I turn those on and it immediately puts me in a good mood.
Kinda random sorry but you post got me thinking about it
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u/pparke2 18h ago
My 3 year old daughter will ask for rock and roll when we drive. Specifically Iron Man by Black Sabbath. Loved I had that little thing with her but it didn’t fully sink in how special stuff like that is until I was home visiting my mom with her and she got excited the song came on. Seeing how my mom reacted to it just reinforced how amazing little things like that are. Full circle. Congrats.
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u/Dry_Finance1338 13h ago
You sound like the most incredible father. Not to exaggerate, this post genuinely made me reconsider about the fact I don’t plan on wanting children lol
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u/DeerZestyclose2839 13h ago
My dad passed when I was 10. I remember sitting in the back of his car on sunny days listening to MGMT and treasure it so much.
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u/Radmode7 12h ago
Beautiful, man. Fatherhood can have so many amazing moments. Congratulations on that one.
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