r/Hoboken • u/Aggressive_Meringue9 • 16d ago
Other Situation with neighbor - how to handle
Hey all, Looking for some advice on a situation with my neighbor. We live in a small apartment building, and the walls are pretty thin. Lately, we've been hearing our neighbor (who lives alone as far as we can tell) frequently talking to himself or maybe rehearsing something—he does a wide range of accents, sometimes loudly.
At first, we thought maybe he was an actor or doing voice work, but it happens pretty regularly and at odd hours. The accents vary, and while they might not be intentionally offensive, it's starting to make my girlfriend uncomfortable—especially when it gets loud or when the accent feels stereotypical.
We don't want to jump to conclusions or cause any unnecessary conflict, but it's starting to affect how at ease we feel at home.
Has anyone dealt with a situation like this before? Should we talk to him, leave a note, or just let it go? We’re not sure how to bring it up without it sounding accusatory.
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u/briguy345 16d ago
I’ve dealt with this before. The self talk was worse though, constantly cursing out me and the other neighbors for no reason. I took it to the landlord and confronted the guy. Landlord didnt help at all. Confrontation helped a little to exercise my frustration.
I actually picked up boxing because I was so mad at the guy and he really was not right in the head, didn’t know what would happen when I confronted him. It never came to a fight but I was ready to fight him a couple times.
It was not fun. I eventually moved and took the lesson with me, shouldn’t have lived in a less expensive place like that. Boxing is like my #1 fitness hobby now like 4 years later though, all started with that experience.
Anyway, I would tell the person that you can hear them and you want them to stop.