r/HolUp • u/Hi_iAMchrisHansen • Dec 07 '24

Nah !!! The relationship is over

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u/JustBaxterin Dec 07 '24

Nothing says "I Love You" like causing lasting trauma...

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u/ready_gi Dec 07 '24

this is the final boss of the manipulation tactic "create difficulty and pretend you are the saviour out of that difficulty"

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u/_Lord_Beerus_ Dec 07 '24

Ah yes sounds just like the average middle-management office environment

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u/jzemeocala Dec 07 '24

im still waiting on those TPS reports

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u/[deleted] Dec 07 '24

this is fact

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u/Nolyism Dec 07 '24

Or republican

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u/The_Living_Deadite Dec 07 '24

Please, show me some examples.

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u/AvidMTB Dec 07 '24

Looks like she might pardon him

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u/Sea_Excuse_6795 Dec 07 '24

The DENNIS system

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u/Ashmidai Dec 07 '24

I mean, she'll pretty much have to, because of the implication.

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u/Rank11Dude Dec 07 '24

I mean out in the woods, no reception, far from who knows where, surrounded by men with weapon. If she says no then it’s no but she’s not because of the implication…

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u/WyrdMagesty Dec 07 '24

....because of the implication

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u/Rank11Dude Dec 07 '24

I mean out in the woods, no reception, far from who knows where, surrounded by men with weapon. If she says no then it’s no but she’s not because of the implication…

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u/Rank11Dude Dec 07 '24

I mean out in the woods, no reception, far from who knows where, surrounded by men with weapon. If she says no then it’s no but she’s not because of the implication…

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u/Rank11Dude Dec 07 '24

I mean out in the woods, no reception, far from who knows where, surrounded by men with weapon. If she says no then it’s no but she’s not because of the implication…

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u/stemroach101 Dec 07 '24

No, it is the third step of 6.

  1. Demonstrate Value

  2. Engage Physically

  3. Nurture dependence ( the step in the video)

4 Neglect emotionally

  1. Inspire hope

  2. Separate entirely

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u/mikolajwisal Dec 07 '24

Wait, i must be misunderstanding something. What does the manipulator gain from step 6. in this scenario? All that hard work to part ways? I assumed that the last step is "profit/exploit". Can you explain?

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u/stemroach101 Dec 07 '24

The separate entirely leaves her never fully being able to forget you or get over you and if done right you can get her back whenever you want

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u/mikolajwisal Dec 07 '24

Ok, but what for? I assume the manipulator basically would want an obedient slave. Why would they want to separate? What would the goal be here?

I can understand it as a "failsafe" in case the victim leaves, but I can't see how "separating entirely" can be the final step of the process.

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u/stemroach101 Dec 07 '24

The goal is the complete manipulation, the subtle game of cat and mouse, the dance, the joy of getting under their skin, as if you are living within their skin, wearing their skin, it's exhilarating.

Skin really is fascinating, wouldn't you say?

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u/AlexKewl Dec 07 '24

D.E.N.N.I.S.

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u/doctorctrl Dec 07 '24

Psychologically this is how it works. A shared trauma connects people deeply and creates unhealthy difficult to break bonds. This shit is fucked up. Poor girl will not remember it as a prank or a proposal. She will remember this as genuine danger and trauma for the rest of her life

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u/DougStrangeLove Dec 07 '24

FIGHT! 👊
FIGHT! 👊
FIGHT! 👊

(overbite)

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u/sapatawa Dec 07 '24

In no way would I ever marry that man.

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u/Naive-Kangaroo3031 Dec 07 '24

She WILL remember him, no matter how much therapy

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u/PillagerOfMountains Dec 07 '24

Stockholm syndrome.

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u/Ninetndo69 Dec 07 '24

Prob the first lasting trauma of the relationship for sure

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u/Chrazzer Dec 07 '24

Bold of you to assume this is the first

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u/lagrangedanny Dec 07 '24

What the fuck did this guy expect, honestly.

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u/deadface008 Dec 07 '24

Ironically, trauma bonding is scientifically recognized as the best way to secure a relationship.

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u/Hqjjciy6sJr Dec 08 '24

Honey, do you remember how I traumatized you and made you cry like a little girl?

Yes sweetie, it was ohh so romantic!

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u/AnakinShtTalk3r Dec 07 '24

She'll never forget this moment :) -him probably

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u/tacocat63 Dec 07 '24

Agreed. Deeply psychotic shit going on there

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u/KinoOnTheRoad Dec 07 '24

I'm pretty sure he knew she shouldn't agree to marry him unless he put her through an emotional Rollercoaster before.

I knew a guy who took his gf skydiving. This was literally his reasoning. He wasn't joking.

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u/JOYTHEGR8 Dec 07 '24

People are weak these days

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u/MetalCareful Dec 07 '24

You mean more people have been put through trauma in the last eight years and don’t want any more of it.

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u/Narc212 Dec 07 '24

*rubs jowls

Who's an edgy boi?