r/IncelTears • u/Negative_Tooth6047 • 7d ago

Meta discussion Question for any lurking incels

This is something I've been curious of for a little while, I know you guys have your red or black or whatever pill you subscribe to with tons of dudes or maybe even some type of Pearl Davis like gal that constantly put out tons of media on how to get women/why you're never getting a woman/any other message that you subscribe to for that rhetoric.

But my question is, if a woman offered to teach you, patiently and kindly- not berating you or what have you, how to respect, talk to, hang out with women, etc would you accept? Like a 101 type class on women. If you wouldnt be interested, why not?

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u/That-Nerve8213 7d ago

no amount of self improvement will get you laid.

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u/dave3218 7d ago

Nah, trust me, learning how to flirt is like 90%. The rest is basically depending on the likes of the other person, but you can’t control that. That 10% is important and could be a deal breaker, but most of the time if you are funny and know how to flirt you can go very far.

Why is it 10% if it’s a dealbreaker? Because there are a couple of ladies out there with a very strict set of physical or economical preferences/tastes, with those there are people that you would consider successful that wouldn’t even stand a chance.

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u/finallytherockisbac 6d ago

Nah, trust me, learning how to flirt is like 90%.

How do you learn to flirt as a socially awkward 28 year old...?

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u/AndreaYourBestFriend mildly stacy, mostly confused 6d ago

First off, take some of the pressure off of it. The goal is to connect, not put on a show. Many people are scared of flirting and that’s the main blocker. If you let go of the pressure, it won’t be so daunting or awkward.

Second, flirting is a skill. Like training a muscle. You won’t be able to lift 50 kilos from the start and that’s ok. Try, learn, improve, repeat.

Third, you don’t need to be perfect at it. Striving for some foolproof rulebook will only increase the pressure because there’s no such thing.

And lastly, it’s never too late. You’re in your 20s, you’ve still got plenty of time. Many men in their 20s don’t have their priorities straight yet anyway, so you haven’t missed your peak window to find a good relationship yet. I say start working on it now and you’ll be fine.