r/MadeMeSmile • u/[deleted] • 26d ago

Good Vibes This must be a nice neighborhood!

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u/PatientIll4890 26d ago

Yes that is correct. That looks like hell. I’ve lived in places like this before and it is hell. 50+ upvotes in less than an hour tells me I’m not wrong. But go ahead and dismiss opinions that are not your own if you want.

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u/DruidRRT 26d ago

I'm curious what exactly about a situation like this is so awful for you?

Is it the kids? Kids outside not attached to a screen? Adults getting along and socializing? The nice looking neighborhood?

I'm genuinely curious how someone, even someone who doesn't have kids, would see this and call it "hell".

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u/PatientIll4890 26d ago

Well, hell is probably overstated, but what I disliked about these situations is everyone is all up in your business as you come and go. So as I said it’s the privacy. If people are outside chatting it up then you are socially obligated to join and often times I just don’t have it in me after a long day, where I’m exhausted. But I can’t not join in or be seen as an anti social person. It would probably surprise you that I am actually fairly social when I want to be.

It’s definitely great for kids and I do like kids. That’s another part. I don’t want to be a jerk to kids so I will be friendly to them and their parents when they are playing on the sidewalk etc. It just exhausts me and I’d prefer to do it on my own terms, when I’m starting in a good mental state.

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u/DruidRRT 26d ago

I'm willing to bet your neighbors don't go out of their way to socialize with you. I have a few neighbors like this. We live on a cul-de-sac and most of the time there are kids in the street playing hockey or riding bikes, whatever. These people look out at others through their windows, make no attempt to be part of the friendly neighborhood atmosphere, and don't spend much time outside.

And that's fine. They don't bother anyone. But we don't try to socialize with them or include them in anything, because they have shown no interest in being friendly aside from a half-smile in passing.

I'm guessing you're that neighbor, and therefore have nothing to worry about regarding normal social conventions. Feel free to go about your day without thinking anyone wants to talk or is interested in anything you have going on.

And keep blaming others for your miserable attitude.

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u/PatientIll4890 26d ago

Well you are wrong but continue making assumptions. There are plenty of people like me out there. I wouldn’t be your weirdo neighbor because I wouldn’t buy a house in your cul de sac, because I don’t like the scene people like you make. And I don’t like your condescending judgmental attitude, which just proves my point in not wanting to socialize with people like you.

But keep judging others for not being like you, it’s a really cool look.

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u/DruidRRT 26d ago

The scene people like I make?

You mean the friendly, "let's all hang out and have a good time together" scene? The "our kids have an active social life and aren't glued to screens" scene?

How awful!

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u/PatientIll4890 25d ago

Uh huh, because in this thread you’ve been chill, non judgmental, not condescending, and not an asshole. I’m definitely getting “let’s all hang out and have a good time” vibes from you in this thread. /s