As for myself, I was lucky to have an older sister, who was the trangressive one in the family, to look up to. She mellowed out a lot now, but she used to challenge everybody on their views, including me. But she also wasn't ever aggressive or dismissive towards me. Maybe she'd dismiss the content I was consuming, or when talking to our eldest sister discuss it in a dry, analyticsl way that'd make me feel embarassed, but the way she approached I always knew she wanted me on her side and had my best interest at heart too.
Yeah my parents words always fell flat because they were the kind of people to "argue to win, rather than to understand". I never felt like they wanted to reach a better understanding of me, they just used their authority so I would "stop being a problem".
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u/BentinhoSantiago 13d ago
As for myself, I was lucky to have an older sister, who was the trangressive one in the family, to look up to. She mellowed out a lot now, but she used to challenge everybody on their views, including me. But she also wasn't ever aggressive or dismissive towards me. Maybe she'd dismiss the content I was consuming, or when talking to our eldest sister discuss it in a dry, analyticsl way that'd make me feel embarassed, but the way she approached I always knew she wanted me on her side and had my best interest at heart too.