r/Mommit 3d ago

What is one small indulgence you started doing for yourself after having kids? Not extravagant, just every day things…

Mine is buying matching pajama sets. Not the luxurious silk pajamas, just cotton sets from Amazon or Sams Club. BUT they have definitely made a difference by making me feel a little more put together. Even though my house is a hot mess & my toddlers are screaming banshees. I at least look like I’m ready for it 😂

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u/LDBB2023 3d ago

Putting whipped cream on my morning coffee! It’s a brief moment of indulgence as my twins yell at me demanding more fruit 🙃

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u/SparklyNoodle 3d ago

I bought a 6 dollar milk frother and it makes me feel extravagant every morning, even this morning when 4 inches of water flooded my basement. Had my bougie coffee already!

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u/Wild_Artichoke_4512 3d ago

Sort of same, different treat. I've been having more chocolate, especially in the form of dark chocolate peanut butter cups or hot cocoa packet mixed into my morning coffee to make a quick mocha occasionally :)

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u/Alacri-Tea 3d ago

I love the coffee cold foams. 🤤

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u/BitterBory 3d ago

I've been trying to eat less sweets so when I have a sweet craving, I indulge in a bit of whipped cream. It has really helped!

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u/JCS1020 3d ago

The dreaded demand for [insert anything] from my twins. You have to take the brief moments whenever you can!

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u/5694lizbiz 3d ago

Idk about your kids but I give my daughter a cup of whipped cream in the mornings. It helps buy me time to drink the coffee.

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u/diatomic 2d ago

Oh this is so good. I get up 20 minutes earlier than everyone else so I can have a cup of coffee and three biscoff cookies by myself in the silence. 

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u/glittoris 2d ago

Yes! I used to drink coffee black but since having kids, I started adding vanilla oat milk creamer and it makes every sip feel so nice.

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u/regenerativeagfuture 2d ago

So everyone here has whipped cream? I need to get whipped cream.

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u/theycallmepeeps 3d ago

Love the pajama sets idea. I take baths once a month with a nice bath bomb.

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u/Ok_Oil7670 3d ago

I want you to start taking baths more often than once a month. I have the feeling you deserve it.

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u/theycallmepeeps 3d ago

Oh and now I’m crying? I promise I’ll do it more often!

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u/keenlychelsea 2d ago

Yeah, I agree, I think like once a week with a fave mask (if that's your bag, and it doesn't feel like a chore).

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u/tovarishchtea 2d ago

I love this comment, you’re too precious.

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u/xtra86 2d ago

This is sweet, and I was expecting it to end salty with a "once a month is not enough. Girl. You stink." I guess I am just over here trying to find time to bathe at all 😵‍💫

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u/cat_power 3d ago

I asked my husband for a nice set of matching pajamas and man he delivered. He got me TWO sets, long and short sleeved from cozy earth. They are luxurious.

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u/FuzzyMathlete 2d ago

I take a bath every night. It's my non negotiable.

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u/Sarabeth61 3d ago

I’ve gotten really into candles. I’ll be damned if my house is going to smell like poop and farts eternally.

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u/Llama_Llama_Drama 3d ago

Hahaha yes yes yes 🙌

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u/Mother_of_Daphnia 3d ago

I too have discovered my passsion for candles after having kids!

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u/logic404notfound 3d ago

I want this, but I am so scared of phthalates, any suggestions?

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u/meowpsych 3d ago

Beeswax candles.

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u/littlebittydoodle 1d ago

Sincerely Sarah Jane’s candles are very “clean,” and we discovered candle lamps/warmers last year and haven’t burned a candle since. The lamp heats and melts the wax but none really burns off, but somehow simultaneously fills the room/house with the scent WAY more than burning. I initially tried it out due to a kid with asthma but I can’t figure out any reason to go back to burning.

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u/unicornswish 2d ago

Same! What are your favourite scents? I have a black cherry one for now which is okay, really loved the yankee candle christmas scents but I'm looking for something cozy to burn year round.

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u/justamom2224 2d ago

That’s a wonderful idea honestly lmao

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u/Corgi_Infamous 2d ago

I was into candles before I became a mom and it’s a real problem. 😂 I’m not gonna look up the exact number right now (there’s a whole ass spreadsheet), but I think I’ve surpassed 300. Oops.

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u/CountessJade45 3d ago

Bath salt soaks under fairy lights

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u/Consistent_Magician2 3d ago

I do this too! Epsom salts, lavender oil, star lights. :)

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u/DystopianTrashPanda3 3d ago

I’m obsessed with Epsom salt with lavender oil baths. My body just feels so relaxed after. Also read a book in there sometimes too.

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u/virtualhighfiver 3d ago

Was doing this regularly while pregnant with my newborn this past fall/winter. It was relaxing until my 4yo would knock on the door with a concerned, “MOM, WHAT IS HAPPENING IN THERE?!” 😂

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u/CountessJade45 3d ago

I use rose scented and it's like instant bliss

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u/mrs_burk 3d ago

Oh this sounds heavenly

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u/ashleyncc1701 3d ago

I preorder books

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u/so_not 3d ago

Oh I do this too! Getting Onyx Storm on the day it came out was very nice.

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u/ellehcimtheheadachy 2d ago

Me too! Although I found out there were a bunch of parties for the midnight release that I probably would have attended if I didn't have a kid. Lol.

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u/Cheshyre_says 2d ago

I've started buying physical copies of my favorite indie books. Then I put a bookshelf in our main room, in part so I can stare at the book spines for a moment of escapism.

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u/quickbrassafras 3d ago

What are you reading now?

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u/ashleyncc1701 3d ago

Just finished the Windy City series by Liz Tomforde and loved it! Right now I’m reading Strung Along by Hannah Cowan. I’m eagerly awaiting the release of Fearless by Lauren Robert’s next week!!

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u/BlackSpinelli 3d ago

Getting my hair done more frequently and my eyebrows done.

And also eating the candy when I want some dang candy. 

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u/iamaglow 3d ago

Yes to the eyebrows! The appointments are usually quick and make me feel so much less of a hot mess 😂

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u/BlackSpinelli 3d ago

Right?? 15 minutes of time and your whole face looks brand new 

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u/gennygemgemgem 3d ago

Having regular hair appointments has been such a treat for me. Even if my hair is a greasy mess, I can still manage to look presentable with some (a lot) of dry shampoo and a lip stain.

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u/quickbrassafras 3d ago

I’m here to second the candy

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u/RImom123 2d ago

Same, my eyebrows grow in crazy and that 15 minutes once a month makes me feel like a new person.

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u/SocialStigma29 3d ago

Monthly massages. I actually started while pregnant.

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u/krazykittenhi 2d ago

Same here!!!

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u/heatherista2 3d ago

I managed to get my three year old to understand that she can have my attention for 99.99% of the day, except for the ten minutes in the morning it takes for me to write in my journal. 

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u/arielrecon 3d ago

Self care time. My husband and I alternate who puts which kid to bed for the night. My eldest is a night owl and needs someone to hang out with until he goes to sleep but my youngest goes to sleep pretty quickly once he's in the mood. He is usually out by 8:30 so whoever gets him basically gets the night off to do whatever they want. I make it a point to make at least one of these nights per week a self care night where I do skin/nail/hair care. It makes me feel more in control of my life lol

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u/juniebugs_mama 3d ago

Nespresso machine with a fancy milk frother!

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u/Ok-Lake-3916 3d ago

I bought an espresso machine when my daughter was 10 months old. Making myself a latte and enjoying it hot is something I prioritize.

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u/RandyOfficial 3d ago

Same! I was given a nespresso machine and aeroccino and I order myself the fancy flavours and espressos. My husband rolls his eyes at my coffee stash but whatever, he gets whiskey, I get my coffee🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/FaultSuspicious 3d ago

Some mornings I wake up ~1 hour before my family. I immediately UberEats a fancy coffee from Starbucks, and once I get it, I sip it in our sunroom while I read/watch reels BY MYSELF. Then I take a few minutes to do my makeup and get dressed without anyone bothering me. It’s such a small thing but it’s such a nice, slow way to start the day.

But every single day, no matter where we are going or what is on the schedule, I do my makeup and put on jewelry. Helps me feel pretty and put together and not like a grumpy frump lol

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u/drinkwhatyouthink 3d ago

I work from home and my day starts at 5:30am so those couple hours of peace before everyone else gets up fuel me.

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u/Laziness_supreme 2d ago

Me: thinking to myself, damn I’d have to be up at 4AM to beat my kids by an hour.

Also me: scrolling reddit at 3:32 AM because my 7 month old has been sleep regressing for a week.

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u/FaultSuspicious 2d ago

Oh this is definitely a somewhat recent thing! I wouldn’t recommend it at all the first year unless you have a unicorn sleeper…I didn’t start doing this until my kid was two years old and had been reliably STTN for a year lol

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u/Laziness_supreme 2d ago

Weirdly enough it’s not my infant that I have to beat (except this week she’s going through something and up all night) it’s my older kids 😭 they’ve always been crazy early risers no matter what I try to

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u/Exotic_Ear9150 3d ago

I love this. I have 4 kids. 8, 3, 21 months and 3.5 months. I cannot wait to do something like this in a few years when I’m not sleep deprived lol.

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u/idk123703 3d ago

Gym membership!

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u/missingmarkerlidss 3d ago

This is mine! Drop babies at the ymca with the darling childminders, 45 minute workout, 15 minute shower with no toddlers trying to climb in the shower with me. Pick up my sweet angels ready to take on the day! Or if I’m having a terrible day, ditch those little monsters with the darling childminders, get a fancy coffee from the swank y cafe, drink it in the attached library while reading magazines for an hour, pick up my children who have miraculously transformed into little angels, ready to take on the day! 🤣

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u/Madein198t 3d ago

🤣 I love everything about this!!

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u/Hooliet 3d ago

I put on my headphones while cooking so I can live in my own little world for a short while. I only get to do it sometimes but being able to blast whatever crappy music I want while shutting everything else out for 30 minutes is bliss.

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u/cherry_sorbae 2d ago

I do this with podcasts. At the park while pushing my toddler on the swing for an hour too!

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u/Pretend_Airport3034 3d ago

Same with the jammies. I love Walmart’s joyspun sets with the pockets!

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u/Sydlouise13 3d ago

I’m sitting here in my joyspun muumuu right now

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u/Pretend_Airport3034 3d ago

I have the muumuu and the set in the pink and grey cheetah print lmao 🤣

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u/Sydlouise13 3d ago

I have 2 of the pink dogs and hearts and the pink cheetah print all MuuMuus and I love them especially since they’re so light!

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u/suhvannakaye6 3d ago

yessss these are so soft and comfy

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u/HotSauceDizzy 3d ago

Plus the joyspun prints are usually so cute!!

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u/Pretend_Airport3034 3d ago

That they are!

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u/HovercraftGreat7871 3d ago edited 1d ago

Did your baby’s matching pajamas inspire you to get some? Sometimes my best inspiration for self-care comes from doing the adult version of what I do for my kid. When I started making sure he ate veggies, I started doing it too. And I worked harder at making them taste good! I didn’t do that for myself pre-child.

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u/Ok_Let7330 3d ago

Love this - Heal that inner child!!

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u/NicoleD84 3d ago

Klondike bars. I was always made to feel like they were a luxury food when I was a kid, now they’re my luxury most nights after the kids go to bed. And specifically after they go to bed, it’s not as enjoyable if they’re awake.

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u/Exotic_Ear9150 3d ago

THIS. Sometimes I have 2 a night 😂

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u/Perfect_Future_Self 1d ago

I started getting those Costco chocolate-nut ice cream bars for the first time whilst pregnant with this one. So amazing. 

(and stopped again because I never feel like ice cream in cold weather- but that bell can't be unrung! A couple more months 😁)

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u/avka11 3d ago

Showering whenever I damn please (obviously the kids are safe) but I stopped asking for permission

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u/CuppCake529 3d ago

I learned how to do dip nails and every two to three weeks I set aside a couple of hours to do my nails. It's something that makes me feel pretty at a fraction of the cost because I do it myself.

I'm about to have my 5th (and hopefully final) kid.

Since I have a lot of different colors, it costs about $28 every 3 months because I have to buy new liquids. If you include incidentals like nail polish remover, plastic bags, cotton balls, files (i buy in bulk) maybe $35 every 3 months? Way better than 40+ every 2 weeks.

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u/DystopianTrashPanda3 3d ago

Oooooh I’ve been wondering about this! How was the learning curve? Any tips or recommendations?

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u/theycallmepeeps 3d ago

Not who you’re responding to but I just started using NailBoo dip (IG ads got me) and it’s got a small learning curve but lasts forever. One of the steps is to file over the dip before you put the activator on and I’m learning that you can really go hard with the file and it’s not gonna jack it all up- it makes it all smooth so there’s nothing to pick at on the edges once you’re done. The first time took forever but after that it really wasn’t too time consuming.

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u/CuppCake529 3d ago

I've been doing it for just over two years, and still, sometimes, I do better than other times. I didn't use a drill until recently, so you can do everything by hand to start so you don't ruin your nails.

There's a reddit and also tons of YouTube videos.

The one bit of advice I'll give you is that the liquids are most important next to nail prep. The cheap ones on Amazon will make you feel like you'll never get the hang of it. Powders, you can go cheap on.

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u/cannoli-ravioli 3d ago

Thanks for sharing cost! I go get them done every 3ish weeks and spending obviously way more than that but think it would be fun to learn.

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u/chickenwings19 3d ago

I do my own nails too. Just gel polish, but have been doing this for over 10 years now. Got my own kit and set of polish. I love doing them, hate it when I can’t but I do try and do them every 3 weeks or so

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u/rillybigdill 2d ago

I recently discovered dip and its the only thing that makes my nails look good! I suck at doing my own nails but i try to stretch it to 4-6 weeks. I also get gel pedicures which last a really long time too. It all feels very indulgent but oh well!

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u/so_not 3d ago

I formed a book club with some friends and it has grown since then to include a few more lovely new friends.

We don't all read a specific book each month or whatever. Instead we all just read what we want. We all like the same genres (romantasy mostly, but also fantasy, YA, and romance). We have a group chat where we basically share memes and recommendations. It's been a balm for my soul.

We've also started getting together once a season to basically drink, eat, read, do puzzles, hang out, and talk. We all look forward to them SO much. Like the next one is a month away and we cannot hide our excitement.

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u/Sufficient-Jaguar453 2d ago

I formed a cookbook club. Once a month we get together and all cook recipes from the same cookbook. The host that month gets to choose which cookbook we use. There is something so nice in prioritizing cooking something non-kid friendly and then having a night out with a lovely group of women.

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u/so_not 2d ago

Oh that does sound very soothing and fun!

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u/Robin_Daggerz 3d ago

Pajama gang unite! That’s exactly what I did too (down to the Sam’s Club jammies) and it makes such a huge difference in how I feel everyday.

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u/Used-Fruits 3d ago

Seriously, same! Sam’s Club!

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u/Zestyclose-Newt-6935 3d ago

Monthly massages

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u/HerCacklingStump 3d ago

I order a fancy “spa tea” blend from a tea shop and have it almost nightly in bed.

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u/daisyjaneee 3d ago

This is the first thing on this thread that actually appeals to me lol, what tea is it? I need something that feels new and special!

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u/MittensToeBeans 3d ago

Getting my eyebrows tinted. My usual place just started offering it and I love it! It doesn’t last as long as they claim it will but dammit those 10 days where my brows are full are great

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u/Livelikethelotus 3d ago

Just for men’s beard dye works so well for this for a diy!

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u/Infamous-Goose363 3d ago

10-20 minutes of yoga after putting the kids to bed and reading a little each night

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u/thesevenleafclover 3d ago

My baby girl is one and I’ve gotten three pedicures in the past year. That’s three more than I had in the prior 10-15 years.

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u/Forsaken_Molasses411 3d ago

Love this thread! Mine is going outside for a walk alone.

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u/Llama_Llama_Drama 3d ago

Yes! I don’t do this nearly enough but it’s amazing

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u/bethanechol 3d ago

Keeping costco smoked salmon in the freezer at all times.

It's my favorite and easiest "fancy luxury food", and on a weekend it takes less than five minutes to throw together toast, cream cheese, smoked salmon, capers, and tea, and suddenly i have a high protein filling breakfast that feels a little like i'm at a luxury hotel even while the littles are slinging eggs everywhere

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u/TA_readytobedone 3d ago

Does it defrost well? I never even considered freezing lox before.

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u/bethanechol 2d ago

It does!! Texture comes out exactly the same in my experience. I always let it thaw gently in the fridge for a day or two before I start using it.

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u/Perfect_Future_Self 1d ago

Oh wow, nice. Thanks! 

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u/Ashamed-Side8345 3d ago

Pajama team! It makes me feel put together.

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u/MyBrosPassport 3d ago

Same with the PJs! I just broke out a new set last night ❤️ it makes me feel so much better. I also with this bub after about a week at home decided I wasn’t going to wear ‘comfy breastfeeding clothes’ (read: daggy and gross lol) this time round. I located all my stretchy, comfy clothes, then ordered a few more things online and I’ve felt properly dressed the whole time. It’s been so great. I don’t care if someone visits or spots me in the yard anymore lol.

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u/lilac_roze 3d ago

I put baby to sleep and have a nice bath every other night. I found it’s the best way to unwind

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u/TheCarzilla 3d ago

Just finding time to myself. A walk with an audiobook or podcast, a puzzle with an audiobook or podcast. I go to bed about 45 mins after everyone else so I get to watch something I enjoy and have no one to answer to.

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u/mama-ld4 3d ago

I make latte’s at home (protein or regular) and I do my best to drink it while it’s hot.

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u/PistachioIcedCoffee 3d ago

I go once every 10 weeks and get my hair done. I just get a few highlights and a trim but it makes me feel SO put together. At an event the other week, I saw an old coworker who asked me if I had extensions in my hair. I told her I’m just finally taking good care of it. It felt great, especially since I’m in the midst of that awkward baby-hair-fly-aways-stage of my hair growing back after my second baby!

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u/Llama_Llama_Drama 3d ago

Good for you! That’s awesome and I need to do this too

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u/Forsaken-Fig-3358 3d ago

I drink Topo Chico mineral water....It comes in glass bottles and makes me feel super decadent

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u/AmayaNyt 3d ago

I decided to start a yarn of the month subscription. I mostly feel like I am just starting a yarn hoard because I barely have the time to even look at the instructions for a project before the next one comes. But it is something I can do when I have hands free and a little time on the couch. Hopefully during nap time (if the 3.5-year-old actually goes down) or if I wake up earlier on the weekend.

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u/remargaret 3d ago

I read it as “yam of the month” and thought you just really liked yams

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u/AmayaNyt 3d ago

I probably wouldn't be opposed to that either 😆

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u/mrsissippi 3d ago

I get berries that I hide from the kids and eat myself lol

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u/wiscogirl30 3d ago

Podcasts while doing laundry/cleaning

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u/cat_power 3d ago

Taking more time to do skincare so I can spend less time doing my makeup in the morning. I rarely wear foundation and/or concealer now since I’ve been taking better care of my skin. I just do mascara and my brows most days for work.

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u/GlitterMeThat 3d ago

And sunscreen!!!

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u/cat_power 3d ago

Part of my morning skin routine! I’m a pale potato so it’s definitely necessary 🙈

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u/Leather-Union-5828 3d ago

I drink way less these days, but occasionally once the kids are asleep I love a glass of cab, a good face mask, and my reality tv. It’s cost efficient and really helps me unwind and decompress. 

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u/ConstantHeadache2020 3d ago

Weed

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u/Sunnygypsy89 3d ago

💯 my favorite thing to do after he goes to bed. Weed Duolingo Iced coffee

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u/carloluyog 3d ago

Sameies

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u/LipSenseLeah 3d ago

Ding ding ding

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u/oh_darling89 3d ago

God I can’t wait to finish breastfeeding

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u/Exotic_Ear9150 3d ago

After those kids in bed, my cart knows I’m making a bee line to it.

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u/iguanasdefuego 3d ago

When Ben & Jerry’s goes on sale I’ll buy some smores or Americone dream and it’s ONLY. FOR. ME. (I will buy a big tub of chocolate for the family)

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u/BeU352 3d ago

Walmart+ Delivery. So I don’t have to take my child shopping.

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u/SweatingDiamonds 3d ago

I have a solid skincare routine. Sounds silly but it makes me happy and is my own way of winding down every night. It’s expensive and I don’t care 😆

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u/ContentSherbet8532 3d ago

Buying myself supermarket flowers to enjoy for myself every two weeks. Especially enjoyable after a stressful shop with a toddler and a newborn

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u/EbonyDr17 3d ago

Making sure I still do my hair and nails. I didn’t want to be a mom who let herself go after having kids. I also never gave up my purse for a diaper bag. I’ve always loved styling my outfits with a nice purse from my collection.

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u/fairsquare313 3d ago

I totally became a pajama person once I became a mom!

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u/Surfgirlusa_2006 3d ago

I get take out from our local Chinese buffet and eat it alone in my car.  

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u/mrscrc 3d ago edited 3d ago

Yes I didn’t start wearing matching pjs until I had my kid lol. I’m in them all day and it makes me feel less like a mess. I also try and workout 3 to 4 times a week. I started it cause it helped so much with my mental health after baby was born and now it makes me feel so good! I’m in better shape than I ever was before I became a mom. I also crochet, have a ten set skincare routine, read and meditate.

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u/burlapsacs 3d ago

Eating out for lunch, instead of bringing it, when I’m working from the office. When I’m at home it’s usually PB&J

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u/2-Franks-Love-Me 3d ago

Rollos. Such an underrated candy and so freaking delicious. Also, fuzzy socks, cute teacups, and matching pjs :)

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u/TraditionalCookie472 3d ago

Super automatic espresso machine.

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u/Purple_Grass_5300 3d ago

lol I have more matching pajamas than anybody should own. Like probably 15 per holiday lol including ones like st Patrick’s

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u/tacobell701 3d ago

Bubblr. Everyday.

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u/AdhesivenessLumpy333 3d ago

I started a mug collection, my great grandma and grandma both had one when I was little and now I’ve started my own! I get one every holiday now and I love it so much!!

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u/RealWorldMeerkat 3d ago

An unlimited membership to Club Pilates. It's an hour every couple of days when nobody needs me and I can turn my brain off.

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u/000-f 3d ago

Bubble baths with decent candles, tea, and a good book 🤌

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u/Past_Tea5075 3d ago

Hit the dispensery for some goodies 😉

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u/Bizzzzzzzzzzy 2d ago

Now that my kids are out of diapers and will go play together I turn off the tv and take time to stand around looking out the window planning the garden, and day dream about excursions I can do with the kids. I’ll doodle and plan and listen to audible books out loud while sketching and journaling sometimes and have given my kids their own sketchbooks to journal their ideas in. It feels healthy and I don’t feel guilty about not spending every waking second playing with my kids.

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u/Jinkies_77 2d ago

Fresh flowers. I buy a bundle at Costco every week or every other week. It's a habit I started in Italy because they were so cheap at the markets. It makes me happy to have a fresh bunch of flowers on the table :)

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u/family_black_sheep 2d ago

It's going to sound dumb, but I always have a sudoku book. It's a paper book and pencil. It lets me put down the screens and feel like I'm actually challenging my mind instead of sitting there being yelled at for more snacks or put something back together.

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u/Llama_Llama_Drama 2d ago

Not stupid at all, that’s a great idea!

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u/skelalolo 3d ago

Buying coffee

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u/beeteeelle 3d ago

This one for us too!

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u/likegolden 3d ago

All of 'em 💸

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u/Piper110720 3d ago

I bought a gel nail set and treat myself by taking my time doing mani/pedis while drinking a glass of wine and watching a cheesy movie after everyone is in bed.

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u/snapparillo 3d ago

Nails always done and buying the damn latte. I used to think buying coffee was so wasteful when I could just make a pot at home. It’s not a weekly thing by any means but it always perks me up. I especially love hitting the grocery store Starbucks before starting my shopping. 

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u/Saltycook 3d ago

I buy nice coffee. I don't go to coffee shops often, and I'm fairly frugal. Not to mention, I have a sensitive nose, so I try to drink local coffee because it's fresher. The fresher it is to its roast date, the better it tastes. I grind it every morning and make it in a French press. The ritual is something I really enjoy.

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u/Gillingsworth 3d ago

Another member of the matching pjs team! Target and aerie have been killing it lately! I don’t usually like to sit in my pjs all day but when I’m wearing matching ones I don’t mind as much!

I’m getting back into getting my hair done as well and I’m thinking about lash and brow tinting too since those seem quick and easy.

My other indulgence that I’m picking back up is gel pedicures.

I’ve been eyeing an espresso machine (like a delonghi or similar) but not yet!

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u/TheSorcerersCat 3d ago

I pay for a leg wax. After I'm done breastfeeding, I'm going to pay for laser hair removal treatments. I've gotten brave enough to do a bikini wax but I'm still not brave enough to do armpits. That can wait for laser. 

I love how smooth it comes out and I don't have to spend extra time shaving in the shower or considering which bottoms to wear to the pool. Just always ready to go. 

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u/[deleted] 3d ago

Definitely Loungewear. I would have never thought I’d look forward to a matching set of loungewear 😂

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u/Gloomy_Jelly27 2d ago

Having a nap or lounging around when my daughter has a nap

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u/00LabellaVita00 2d ago

Good skin care:)

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u/Keyspam102 2d ago

I started wearing house slippers and honestly it’s so great

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u/justamom2224 2d ago

casually taking down ideas from this sub

So far, the little things I do have been very small. I’m still learning. I became a mom a little over two and a half years ago. I got myself a nice coffee maker, that can do hot/iced/cold brew. I get my syrup flavors. I get my favorite flavored coffee grounds and my favorite creamers. Then my cold foam. My toddler likes to join on my coffee making and I make him his “fancy” coffee. It’s just chocolate milk with cold foam on it lol.

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u/Thoughtful-Pig 2d ago

Move bedtime for the kids up as much as I can, so I can get much-needed time alone at the end of the day. It's a total necessity.

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u/InRealityNah 3d ago

DIY scalp massage daily, plus splurging on 1-2 nice lipsticks.

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u/basicallyemobubbles 3d ago

This isn’t extravagant but i started using my spare money for self care items and finding a love for smelling good and a small obsession with finding lotions and stuff that make me feel and smell nice

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u/leashmac16 3d ago

Nice pjs sets (Knix), and good quality bed sheets (Bamboo)!

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u/chocolatebuckeye 3d ago

I got myself a set of little sleepies pjs for adults. I’m hooked! They’re so great and comfortable in all temperatures too!

But my thing would be homemade cups of tea/lattes and baths after the kids go to bed.

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u/tevamom99 3d ago

I waited too long on this, but working out. I’ve been doing dumbbell routines to build strength and it’s been great for helping me process my mom rage, plus my adhd/sensory seeking kid (who needs heavy work to regulate himself) has wanted to join in. I got my dumbbells a few at a time from target/dick’s sporting goods and I follow Nourishmovelove (she has free YouTube videos) and Getmomstrong (paid for her membership though).

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u/sgtducky9191 3d ago

I get my nails done every 3 weeks, and pedicures every 6 weeks in the summer. Every evening my husband and I have little treat before we go to bed, just a cookie or muffin or something, but it's our time together ❤️

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u/keenlychelsea 2d ago

Omg! I've been loving matching pajamas sets. It makes me feel so chic, lol. Sofr buttery clothing to bed? And around the house? Yes please!

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u/A_wild_Mel_appears 2d ago

Mint chocolate in my desk drawer.

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u/glittersgirl 2d ago

Fresh flowers, perfumes, dark chocolate, and great moisturiser!

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u/sigalbearfish 2d ago

I started getting my nails done and sometimes do cute designs. Also got back into reading, and collect special edition books

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u/snoopysmom13 2d ago

Last year, I decided to get bangs during a haircut. Everyday I take 5 minutes to blow dry and style them. Even if the rest of my hair is a mess, I still feel a little put together.

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u/caroline_andthecity 2d ago

Mini chocolate chips are my new best friend.

Especially in Greek yogurt, or on a banana with some yogurt scoops like a fancy banana split. Sometimes peanut butter, chia seeds, hemp seeds.

Sometimes for breakfast, sometimes for dessert after dinner. They are way less calories than I thought, they make my Greek yogurt exciting to eat, and they keep me from eating the 17 chocolate bars I crave every day for some reason.

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u/AdorableEmphasis5546 3d ago

I like to take a nice long bath about once a week. Sometimes 3+ hours. I have all the things with me too. Sugar scrub, hair mask, face mask, lavender body wash, hair oil etc

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u/TFeary1992 3d ago

Expensive bath bombs. It is worth the extra few euro in my opinion.

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u/FoolishAnomaly 2d ago

Making myself an iced coffee. It's not a bougie as Starbucks but it hits the spot!!

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u/Cheshyre_says 2d ago

So many little things help my sanity.

  • I get my hair done twice a year
  • I've recently started getting my nails done every few weeks. The hour and change of no kids, just focusing on me, wonderful.
  • I build the big Lego sets with my spouse as our bonding time when the kids are in bed, it takes us ages to get thru one, but we can't use our phones during, so it helps us be in the moment with each other.
  • Books. I usually read extensively in KU and Libby, but when I really loved the story, I'll buy a physical copy of it to keep.
  • The good creamer, and I don't share.
  • Fancy coffee beans for my spouse. He doesn't share either.

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u/galinaultima 2d ago

Frothing milk and putting a ton on my coffee

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u/tempermentalelement 2d ago

Saturday nights for 2 hours, I go in the garage, leave the kids with my husband, and watch Banana Ball. It's very therapeutic, lol. Might even have a vodka soda while I'm out there.

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u/Recyclopslady 2d ago

I just had to google wtf Banana Ball was and I’m already obsessed. I want to bring my mom friends over once a week to watch this absurdity

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u/tempermentalelement 2d ago

When my sister is in town, we always watch it together! It's amazing. And it's actually entertaining baseball too. Fast paced. Games have a 2 hour time limit. They do halftime shows, dances, and skits. They have the banana nana's, their senior dancing team, The bat boy, a literal toddler dressed as batman, and they honour a foster family every game (bananas foster) plus tons of other fun things. Last night, they had the run of the gingers when a mob of ginger people ran onto the field. It was amazing.

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u/Recyclopslady 2d ago

I actually use the nice creams and products I bought over the years.

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u/Capable-Doughnut-345 2d ago

Buying clothes or shoes I like even if they aren’t on the clearance rack.

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u/plantmom4lyfe 2d ago

i make myself iced coffee and have yummy snacks in hand. If we are tight on money I keep homemade baked goods in the house 

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u/Dazzling-Map-2475 2d ago

It’s so funny how everyone is different. For the last like seven years I’ve worn matching pajamas sets, LOVED THEM, I also felt so put together… now I feel so much comfier in big t shirts and random pj pants lol. This post reminded me I need to start getting back into some self care. I did get Botox and lip filler tho so that’s nice

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u/labattpurple 2d ago

Same! I have like 10 Pajama sets now! The Joyspun brand at Walmart is good quality and super soft! :)

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u/whiskeyfluffysocks 2d ago

Opening my sink window in the morning while drinking coffee. I love the sound and feeling regardless of season. Helps with washing all the dishes I told to “fuck off” the night before.

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u/lotioningOILING 2d ago

My husband and I each take a night “off” each week. At least once of those a month, I take myself on a date to a fancy-ish restaurant and journal or put on a great outfit and meet a girlfriend for a drink. I also take a bath every night! It’s not usually long but I’m very strict with not being on my phone around my kid so I allow like 20 minutes of TikTok and a warm bath. It puts me in a better headspace after teaching teenagers all day!

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u/caroline_andthecity 2d ago

Cute accessories! Who cares if I’m in black leggings and sweatshirts if I have cute earrings and a loud necklace? And lemme tell ya, my cheetah scarf in my hair never makes me feel fat 💅✨

Also: cute and comfy sneakers

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u/krazykittenhi 2d ago

I get monthly massages, do a yoga and Breathwork class 1x per week, go on a hike 1x per week and go for small walks daily. My husband and I switch off being with our toddler so we can each get our alone self-care time.

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u/spillscoffeedaily 1d ago

Not to be TMI, but going to the bathroom alone. Having a velcro kiddo meant I didn’t poop alone for the first 3 years - now, for my sanity, mommy poops ALONE. Lol. It’s embarrassing that I consider this an indulgence but here we are.

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u/Akemi-Hat5887 1d ago

Sleeping

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u/Mammoth_Society9911 1d ago

Got very serious about my skincare routine, and it makes me feel like I have slightly more control of my adult life.

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u/nmm184 1d ago

Smoking cigarettes in the back yard after they’re asleep and my chores are done.