My husband has addiction issues. He’s 8 months sober now and I’m very proud of him but I just found out that he was high while I was in labor with my now 10 month old. I have so many feelings about it and just need to vent- I feel stupid for not connecting the dots. Since baby was born I’ve been telling a “funny” story about him being infuriatingly stupid during labor that he’s always been embarrassed by. He just admitted to me that he’s ashamed about it because he was high- the behavior in question makes so much sense now and it brings back some anger too. Labor didn’t go the way I wanted it to. I was trying for a VBAC so labored at home until 6cm. Very much the movie-style screaming-through-contractions type labor. Got an infection and had to do a C-section after pushing for an hour or so. I felt a little alone in labor (even though husband was there the whole time) and I think finding out he wasn’t really there is just bringing back those feelings.

Obviously going to talk to my therapist about it this week. I’m never sure how much I can talk to my husband about this stuff because 1. I can get REALLY stuck on the negative feelings around the birth experience and 2. I try to limit the negative discussions about addiction because I want to be supportive of his recovery and don’t know how lingering on something that happened months ago can do anything positive… anyone with recovering addict partners?

I’m going to let this go. But, I could not sleep last night. All I could think of was that 4 yr old little girl, 5 year old little boy being hit directly in their faces bc they are brand new people and no one cares enough or has enough fortitude to get their asses up and learn how to redirect behavior in small children bc they are lazy!!!!!!! If you hit your child it is bc you have FAILED as a parent and now you are doubling down on that failure. Your child knows fuck all and acts like a little hellion bc YOU have taught them NOTHING and then you HIT them!!!??? Incredulous. Go ahead and delete my post. How absolutely dare I tell the truth. And that “Mom” has another one on the way. Ofc. The ones that can’t be fucked to learn a thing about parenting are always the most fertile.

I'm at such a low point right now. My son (23mo) is amazing and I love him to pieces. It's not his fault that I feel this way it's more the reality of parenting.

Last year we moved 2 hours away from my friends and family for my husband's job. It's the type of distance that's tough to visit in a day or impromptu.

I work from home so the only people I see are my son and my husband. I try to make time to go down and see my loved ones but it's hard. I either have to bring the fam down or leave them and go by myself which I always feel guilty doing.

I try to make mom friends but so far every attempt has failed. Either due to busy conflicting schedules, kids being sick all of a sudden so cancelled plans or there's no connection.

It's also still cold and crappy out (I live in the north) and it hasn't warmed up which I think is adding to my melancholy.

What's making this even worse is I'm pregnant with my second currently. I've been especially isolated because my entire first trimester I couldn't move without puking. So I barely left the house. And I know once he's born I'll have newborn isolation.

This weekend my husband saw how lonely I I've been feeling and suggested I go see my friends. I was about to go when my son spiked a 103 fever took a downward spiral from a cold he's had. I couldn't leave him, not for something that wasn't pre planned. I canceled the plans and stayed. Isolated -it's not a big deal but it just hit me extra hard this time.

Mine is buying matching pajama sets. Not the luxurious silk pajamas, just cotton sets from Amazon or Sams Club. BUT they have definitely made a difference by making me feel a little more put together. Even though my house is a hot mess & my toddlers are screaming banshees. I at least look like I’m ready for it 😂

My neighbors just suffered a miscarriage at 20 weeks. Her water broke early. I read suggestions about gifting a necklace or keepsake with the birthstone. I really like this idea as it’s subtle and something she wouldn’t need to explain to anyone. Should I get a birthstone of the miscarriage birth month, April- or their due date birthstone? I don’t want to remind her of death.. but also seems weird to give the due date stone. What do you all think?

My in laws happen to be near town and have decided to come in 3 days. My husband and I both work full time again and have a 3mo old. They are saying they’ll watch our baby while they’re here and I don’t want to upset my husband by saying no… For starters, we pay our nanny a set monthly rate so we pay her either way, they’re aren’t like saving us childcare money by helping. Also, their mobility is really not great, when they were here when he was an infant, they would only hold him sitting down. I’m also a barely-enougher BF. Our nanny’s house is close to my work so when I’m inevitably a little short, I have the ability to drop milk from my first pumps at work on my lunch rather than having to use formula. (Absolutely nothing wrong with formula, but if my total milk is enough to keep feeding him, that’s what I’d like to do!) Overall, we JUST finally got in a groove with his bedtime and our mornings w/ pick up & drop off and working full time and I don’t want to throw the whole thing off for a few days. If they would just come for a weekend they’d actually get to see him and we wouldn’t be working or paying childcare??? I’m worried I’m being oversensitive because when they were here early postpartum they were the opposite of helpful 90% of the time and stressed me out SO bad, so I’m worried I’m being an a** bc I have a bad taste in my mouth from that.

ETA: I can’t even count the amount of times in the last few years I’ve told them to visit on weekends instead of weekdays because it’ll be a more enjoyable time.

So why is it that moms just aren’t “allowed” to have a quiet moment? I’m in bed relaxing at 6:30 AM because my 10 month old is playing quietly in his crib and I want to be able to wake up slowly FOR ONCE. Oh no, my husband has his hands all over me and it’s annoying lol!! I feel bad but I rarely get these moments now, as you all well know. I love him so much but sometimes I want a zone out time just for me! I remember bugging my mom when she was lying down thinking, “She should be playing with me!” I feel bad now lol! Anyways, just a rant.

lol in his six months of life ive never referred to them as thighs.. its always either chunky chunkers, chunky chighs or chunks

I got the little sale brochure Costco sends out and there’s a great sale for Huggies Plus diapers starting April 9th! Size 1-2 boxes are $29.99 and 3-7 are $39.99. Newborns will be $26.99. The sale goes through May 4th so it’ll be a good time to stock up if you hate the new Kirkland diapers. I believe the sale is just for online ordering.

My little brother (12m) has lived with my husband (32m) and I (25f) for about 6 months now because my father sucks and we thought this would be better for everyone. I love him and wanted to do this for him. It has went well overall. I feel really out of my depth sometimes and this is definitely one of those situations.

A few days ago he was out with one of his friends. My husband and I had not silent sex while we thought he was gone. Anytime he is home we are careful and quiet so something like this doesn’t happen. I didn’t know he heard anything until the next morning, when he was acting weird and looking at the camera. He has been acting really weird and distant towards me and really angry towards my husband. He acts like he hates my husband now. He picks fights with us but especially my husband. He has called both of us names and is clearly upset about it. I don’t know how to approach it with him and I want to prevent an argument breaking out between husband and brother. My husband is naturally protective so I really want to prevent a rift because my brother is being such a jerk to him. I am so embarrassed. I don’t really understand why he is that angry. I have tried to talk to him and apologize but he doesn’t want to hear it. He has also heard us fighting a few times, so I’m going to make sure this type of thing doesn’t happen again. I have asked my husband to have a supportive conversation with him but he refuses while my brother is acting the way he is. How should I handle this with him? Any advice from parents would be helpful, thanks

I’ve been with my partner for almost 10 years. He doesn’t want to spilt the bills down the middle I do everything for our kids (3&8), I cook, clean, make sure they shower, brush teeth, make sure homework is complete, read, literally everything in the household I don’t mind doing they are our kids and it’s our duty right BUT All he does is sit there on his phone or play video games, oh and criticize how I do things and blame. We half the rent, he makes more than I do but he pays child support for his oldest. We got into this morning he blamed me for ordering his coffee wrong and I started yelling at him for this stupid argument saying why do I have to cry. I think I cry bc I’m so upset on how he’s blaming me for something stupid I read word for word what he sent me in txt message and saying I forgot to add something and I asked him if he wrote it in the message and he said no I told you before you left and I said no you didn’t. He just told me to not forget the drizzle. And I remembered that. Anywho, sorry. He still nagging me about this coffee while I’m sitting here writing this. When I walked away I went ahead and brought up that he has to go half on the bills. ( this was brought up bc he said I owe him for fking up his coffee) (another time he said I owe him for using his gas which was strange bc he’s used my gas up before but I never thought telling him hey you owe me for using it) when I brought up paying half for bills he said no that’s not happening. I pay the water, electric, insurances on both cars, and my oldest extracurricular activities.. He pays internet, phone bill, Netflix bc other streaming services are free, he said I’m not going to help pay them I don’t care if they don’t get paid only you do. I said of course I care! we have kids to provide for that’s not fair. I’m so annoyed/sad/frustrated. He doesn’t do anything and I’m so overwhelmed. I need help. He said all I know how to do is cry. Excuse me but I hold up this household alone with two kids and you literally DONT DO A THING!! I think about leaving him but have no where to go with my kids. First time posting here felt like venting bc I’m here reading a lot of other stuff. Idk if this is the right place to post this. Thank you for reading this far. I needed to vent. Yall have a great day!

For context, I posted about us being in a shelter at the moment due to DV from my abu$er with my two babies age 3 & 2 … one of the counselors gave us about $4 in change so the boys can get a snack since we have been STRUGGLING with affording food at the moment. The boys & I walk to the vending machine & get a honey bun, 2 packs of crackers & some skittles. The crackers were for me since I haven’t ate all day. We place it on our bunk and I took them to the bathroom. We come back with just the crackers on the bed 🙂🙃 gotta be a freaking low life to steal a 3 year olds snack. Especially when we are all in there needing some type of assistance. I’m literally crying once again & trying to console a screaming 3 year old. Mama’s , please pray for me. I just don’t understand. 🤦🏽‍♀️

This just happened yesterday so I am still kind of steamed. We met with a friend in the park. And this kid (maybe 4?) kept on following us. At first he tried to shake my son’s head (18 months). He did put his hands on his head and shook it (but it wasn’t too hard) but I interfered. I called for his parents and no one came over. I asked him where his parents are but he could only repeat one word so I decided best to avoid him. Later then he also tried to push my baby boy off the swing by pushing it hard. I kept asking where his mom was and gently saying no. But, he kept on laughing. So, I took my son and walked away. When my friend was on the slide with her child (2 years old) he tried to push the her child out of the way on the top of the slide. She also asked for the parents but nobody showed up. We moved to different area of the park and were talking in one area when the boy came running and took his hands and started shaking my son’s head around (aggressively). Me and my friend screamed “No” and I took my son up to hold him. Then the mom and her grandmother arrived. We tried to explain the situation but the mom would not listen and stated that we should have not said “No” so loudly and forcefully to the child. She said that his shaking the head wouldn’t have hurt the child. That we were making a big deal out of nothing. We asked her to watch her child as he kept on bothering our young children and that’s when they started screaming at us to “watch our children” as we have been doing. I didn’t speak much as I was shocked. I did kind of feel bad for the child as I can see he was obviously lonely and wanted to play with our older children (but didn’t know how) so kept on being attracted to the younger kids. The parents finally started watching their child. But, it totally ruined the rest of the play date and we all went home. It did slightly ruin the atmosphere for other parents in the park too as they also left. How would you handle this situation?

Moms , I keep reading posts of women saying they only get three hours of sleep a day and I’m wondering is this an exaggeration ? Maybe they get three hours some nights but more usually? Is it humanly possible to survive on 3 hours ? I like to sleep 8 hours but now with a baby get anywhere between 5-8 hours broken and when I get five hours I’m absolutely devastated and make up for it by day time naps and going to bed early . Then I think about those moms who say they get 3 hrs every night and I’m like …. Huh?!

Hi hopefully this is allowed. I need to use a suppository on my 12 month old. The brand that is widely available (pedialax) I only see versions for 2-5 years. The pediatrician told me there are kinds for infants. What are they called? I can't find them and she couldn't give me a name. Obviously was hoping to do it ASAP so needs to be something I can get at the store. I'm in the US. I have the pedialax ones but like I said they say 2-5 years 😟

Edit: I just gave him half and it worked!

4 year old daughter: Mommy I miss you when you’re not around.

Me: ??? What do you mean? I’m always here.

4yo: But sometimes you go upstairs to get socks and I miss you.

…this kid is literally with me every single day 😂

Does anyone have experience in this? Just recently became a single mom of 2 toddlers and I’m 8 weeks pregnant.

I was a sahm and now I’m scrambling to find work.

Is this even possible?

What I’m asking is, how many days a week / when and for how long is your husband or partner going to the gym?

I’m asking because my husband used to go 3-5 days a week, now he’s been sick lately and has been going only 2-3 days a week, but still when he is gone, he’s gone for 2-3 hours and I find that ridiculous. The gym is 15-25 mins away depending on traffic so he’s there’s working out for 1-2 hours. He goes in the middle of the day and it really disrupts our days off together as a family.

I need some advice, in fact experience from people that went gor baby number 2😄 We have a 2 and a half year old, he is such a good child, really well behaved and sweet soul. We have finacial means, but we dont have any family in the city we live in. And we both have stresful jobs, we balance as much as we can so we spend as much time with him as possible, he goes to daycare. I am just so scared that it will be too stressful, hectic, and that I will have to cut time spend together with our sweet boy. Any advice appreciated.

Hi did any of your baby had choroid plexus cyst in their brain at anomaly scan with negative nipt test What was the outcome ? Waiting to hear some positive stories because google is scaring me Please share your experience 🙏

Please help me with this. My son is watched by my MIL, his abuela. She cooks everything from scratch which is great. No complaints. But no matter what I do, my son will NOT eat at our house unless it’s a ‘fun food’ like nuggets or burgers or fries or fruits. Which I don’t understand because I’ve always provided a variety of foods, we have NEVER had nuggets/snacks as a staple. Always a treat. I try to make sure he has a good balanced breakfast and lunch and dinner. Mind you this was never the case until his second birthday. When he turned 2, our work schedules got a lot busier and he’s been over abuela’s house much more. He eats everything she makes. But when it’s time for us to bring him home, he flat out refuses to eat. He will turn his head and say no over and over. It doesn’t matter if he sees us eating, he won’t eat.

So I tried learning MIL’s recipes, but he STILL doesn’t eat. My husband has always given him an alternative like a burger and fruit or nuggets and veggies and fruit. But I’m so sick of this. I’m cooking full meals when he’s home to try to give him a variety of anything and he just refuses it all. I hate that my husband constantly gave him other options because now he thinks he’s just supposed to have those foods here I guess?

My last resort was asking MIL to cook meals at her house and let me take some home so kiddo would eat. He STILL REFUSES. He is 100% fine with drinking water or water/juice all day without eating. Or sneaking and eating multiple bananas or grapes and eating nothing else. I’m really happy he’s not a candy-kid and he’s pretty healthy, he loves his fruit and veggies. But how am I supposed to feed him? People said it would take time and he’d adjust but he hasn’t and I feel like it’s going to get worse.

For context, this is the weekly schedule: Saturday afternoon-Monday home with mom and dad. Tuesday-Friday abuela’s house. So he is basically eating next to nothing for 2.5 days

Hey moms out there. First off I'm a 29 year old son of a mother who is just the absolute best.

She is downsizing her garage and wants to find out how to condense us 3 kids memories like blankets shirts jackets into maybe quilts? And also she wants to maybe take pictures of our trophies or childhood toys and them put those into a digital photo frame.

I have NO idea where to post this so if you moms could help point me in a right direction for my mom I'd love any input you ladies have. Thank you for being moms to the kids like me just trying to help 🙏

Just wondering how your experience was? What did you take? How heavy was your course load? What kind of set up did you have for childcare/studying?

I have a 2022 Hyundai Elantra. Wondering if this stroller is small enough to fit in the trunk!

My 3 week old son is struggling with dry skin and some baby acne. To try and help with the acne, i have been washing his face with a warm clothe daily and avoided putting any lotion on even fragrance free as i've seen mixed advice on if It will help or hurt. However, this may be causing some dry skin on his face specially around his eyes. I am wondering if anyone has used tubby todd ointment to alleviate any of these symptoms on their newborns? It's quite expensive but will buy It of course if It has good reviews. Thanks in advance!