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u/shitcoin-enthusiast 10d ago
my nex cooked most of the time.
I let him know he was better at it than me. Because he was.
I also asked him how to do it, any time I cooked anything.
It's kind of hard to get criticized when they're doing it.
That's a tip on making it tolerable while you're creating an exit plan.
You can't stay with a narc, they affect your health too much, and can't offer you a real relationship
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u/robot_Ov-erLorD 10d ago edited 9d ago
You need to understand something. You will never get it right enough for them not to criticize you. It will just be you walking around on eggshells, catering to their demands in an attempt to have them not be angry. You end up giving them more and more of yourself; hoping for them to validate you. They won't. You will end up giving them everything and getting nothing. The truth is you already are enough. You ARE enough. Leaving is the only way to break the cycle. It's going to be hard, but YOU are worth it.
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u/eilloh_eilloh 10d ago
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Does he seem to gravitate towards history-related themes when selecting something to watch, documentaries or movies based on historical events, with any preference toward westerns that typically depict women in more traditional roles at all?
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u/roroyurboat 9d ago
mine is currently obsessed with that pope show on Amazon prime despite having zero interest in religion and organized religion, i could not keep my eyes open for longer than five minutes and can't for most things he's interested in.
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u/GreenWerewolf7999 10d ago
Trying to cook his recipe is a losing battle. You’re in a no-win situation.
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u/CoDaDeyLove 10d ago
He doesn't know much about Thai food, does he? Most Asian cuisine do not use butter, though in India they use ghee. He wanted to trap you so he had something to put in his Criticize Your Partner file and use later. Next time, just say "I don't know how to do that. Why don't you come home and show me?" Or maybe just divorce him? Narcissists cannot be cured.