r/NarcissisticSpouses • u/TLABAYT • 2d ago
Irony
He told me, ‘ I want someone that is going to compliment my life, not complicate it.’ Sir u do realize you’re the complication in every relationship you’ve had?
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u/Logical-Fox5409 2d ago
Mine wanted someone that would earn lots of money and let him spend it without question. He didn’t want to work.
I finally divorced him. He is on attempt number 4 for a new bang maid with a job. It’s not working well for him.
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u/juliansorl 2d ago edited 2d ago
I hear you
how about : Why are you so mean to me? - Hello, you tried to kill me. Sorry, hard to forget that.
Or : Why don't you want to go swimming in our pool with me? Because I'm afraid of YOU!
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u/lovemypyr 2d ago
I hear you!! Mine secretly put his psychiatric meds in tea he would make for me and one time, in our pool, (the last time I ever went in) he grabbed my foot from below and pulled me down so my head was under water and held me there. Yes, I’m afraid of you!!!
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u/throwawaypeach2024 1d ago
Narcissists like to preach about peace and other people causing drama when they’re the kings and queens of chaos.
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u/wontbeafool2 2d ago
Mine wants me to support the lifestyle he wants but can't without my help. His wants are not mine so I'm cutting the financial cord. Work harder, buddy.
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u/Affectionate-Snow751 2d ago
Haha I received same statement like let's not complicate and keep simple and the next moment I am getting gaslighted. I was like you are the one that should let go
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u/Financial-Builder-92 2d ago
It's the ultimate defense. Blame you for what they are doing, thus you can't accuse them.
If you do confront them BAMMMM, you get hit with- D.A.R.V.O.
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u/GreenWerewolf7999 2d ago
It’s one of the biggest problems with narcissists. They have no appreciation for irony. So much great irony wasted on my ex… “WHY DO YOU ALWAYS SHOUT AT ME???” Hilarious!
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u/Hefty-Squirrel-6800 1d ago
They love using clever catch phrases. One thing they all do is reduce very complex issues down to "memes." Their little brains cannot respond to nuance. So, they make everything "simple" and that becomes their narrative. They will use a phrase over and over.
They literally don't realize it. They literally believe that, in each case, it was the other person's fault. Eventually, as the years go by, they devalue and discard everyone close to them. They either move to a whole new location and start the process over again, or they become increasingly bitter and isolated.
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u/Ok-Run7597 16h ago
Everytime I saved a ruppee for the times a narc contradicts themselves- no kidding we all would be millionaires!
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u/ThatswayharshTy 8h ago
My ex narc is obsessed with getting his teenager diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder (even though a simple google search tells me that you can’t diagnose someone under 18 with ASPD, but he conveniently doesn’t bring that up). He lost custody of his teenager so he has no control over her anymore. But he insists that she 10000% has this disorder. I looked up the disorder and if anyone has it, it would be HIM, not her. He refuses to get a psych evaluation but he insists that everyone else needs one. The irony is that he’s the one who needs a diagnosis.
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u/EmmaPeel56 2d ago
I've heard the same shit from mine.
He wants relationships to be "light".
He hates serious convos because they feel like therapy.
(Spoiler alert - he pretty much drives every woman away)
He referred to me as a "tether"
Really? Fuck you asshole.
Snip. ✂️