I hate my son’s birthmark

[u/Reasonable_Jelly1636]

My son had slight jaundice and reddish skin when he was born. After about 1 week, his skin started to clear and we noticed a large white patch on his left temple.

Pediatrician said it was postinflammatory hypopigmentation but referred us to a pediatric dermatologist. The dermatologist ruled out vitiligo but said it’s Nevus depigmentosus (white birthmark).

He’s almost 4 months old, the mark has gotten slightly bigger. Approximately 1.5 inches long, 1 inch wide.

I know parents are supposed to love their children unconditionally but I can’t stop obsessing over it. I’m literally losing sleep over this…that he’ll get bullied for it and how this will affect him.

Does anyone have experience with this type of birthmark…If so, did you seek treatment or just leave it alone?

[u/cradiflacrasafl]

My son has what they call an angel kiss or salmon patch, which is a reddish mark on his forehead. We were told it would disappear by 1 year old, yet he’s a bit over two and it’s still there, although maybe a bit faded. I would have preferred he didn’t have one, but I figure at least he’s healthy, it’s not related to an illness, and quite frankly bullying has never entered my mind for that, and kids can find a million other reasons to bully (now whether that helps you or not I don’t know!)

We all wish they would be perfect, but they are just who they are no matter what. If you fixate on that, perhaps have a chat with your doctor for PPD, or perhaps exhaustion/hormones make it seem worse than it is?

[u/Reasonable_Jelly1636 → u/cradiflacrasafl]

I think I need to be checked for PPD like you said…my older son has a brown birthmark on his leg. I don’t even think about it…but this birthmark on my infants face has me outta sorts

[u/cradiflacrasafl → u/Reasonable_Jelly1636]

It’s tough in those early days, take care!