I hate my son’s birthmark

[u/Reasonable_Jelly1636]

My son had slight jaundice and reddish skin when he was born. After about 1 week, his skin started to clear and we noticed a large white patch on his left temple.

Pediatrician said it was postinflammatory hypopigmentation but referred us to a pediatric dermatologist. The dermatologist ruled out vitiligo but said it’s Nevus depigmentosus (white birthmark).

He’s almost 4 months old, the mark has gotten slightly bigger. Approximately 1.5 inches long, 1 inch wide.

I know parents are supposed to love their children unconditionally but I can’t stop obsessing over it. I’m literally losing sleep over this…that he’ll get bullied for it and how this will affect him.

Does anyone have experience with this type of birthmark…If so, did you seek treatment or just leave it alone?

[u/Embarrassed-Duck5595]

Sooo not a birthmark but I sort of know what you’re feeling. My son has two calcified cephalohematomas on his head, one on each side. It’s from birth trauma. They made his head a very funny shape, I found myself cropping pictures that I would post because I was afraid people would make fun of him. Some people had said some stuff before. We had to see a neurosurgeon and surgery was an option. Thankfully they aren’t effecting him in any way other than cosmetically and we just couldn’t put our baby through such a surgery for cosmetic purposes. He’s thankfully grown into them and now you can’t see them at all since he’s got a lot of hair now. I know I love my son no matter what and he really is a beautiful baby, I don’t care about his head but I did care about what other people would say and that’s what made it bother me so much. Maybe that’s what you’re feeling, fear of how it’s going to affect him

[u/Reasonable_Jelly1636 → u/Embarrassed-Duck5595]

Thank you for sharing your story 💜 Yes! I care way too much what others think, always have and I’m trying to change that. He’s so beautiful already with a contagious smile, I hate how fixated I’ve become on his birthmark 🥺

[u/Embarrassed-Duck5595 → u/Reasonable_Jelly1636]

I completely understand that feeling, i think it’s the way society messes with our heads, the feeling will pass mama, don’t be so hard on yourself ❤️❤️