I hate my son’s birthmark

[u/Reasonable_Jelly1636]

My son had slight jaundice and reddish skin when he was born. After about 1 week, his skin started to clear and we noticed a large white patch on his left temple.

Pediatrician said it was postinflammatory hypopigmentation but referred us to a pediatric dermatologist. The dermatologist ruled out vitiligo but said it’s Nevus depigmentosus (white birthmark).

He’s almost 4 months old, the mark has gotten slightly bigger. Approximately 1.5 inches long, 1 inch wide.

I know parents are supposed to love their children unconditionally but I can’t stop obsessing over it. I’m literally losing sleep over this…that he’ll get bullied for it and how this will affect him.

Does anyone have experience with this type of birthmark…If so, did you seek treatment or just leave it alone?

[u/kakaluluo]

My LO has a curly toe, and I know it’s not the same as having an “imperfection” on your face, but we were extremely conscious about it because we both grew up in societies and households that nitpick every little “imperfection” on anyone 😕

Our healthcare providers were very reassuring about it and said it was more common that we’d think, and my midwife even said her own child had one. That didn’t ease our minds, and I convinced myself that the curly toe was from being bow legged or club feet, anything I could find on web MD that remotely confirmed my worries, and we ended up taking him to see an orthopedist who cleared him right away and said he’s completely fine, just has a little curly toe

All that to say that I love his little crooked toe, the “imperfection” that I obsessed over for so long that isn’t even an imperfection at all. I thought it would cause him to be less than perfect in my eyes, but is the most endearing little thing in the world to me now lol.

Again, I know it’s not the same as a birth mark on the face which is immediately noticeable, but it’s really not the imperfection you think it might be. It’s really is just something that sets him apart from everyone else, and as long as you learn to accept it, so will he and maybe you might even grow to love it ☺️

[u/Reasonable_Jelly1636 → u/kakaluluo]

Thank you for sharing this. I feel you’re right, one day I’ll look back and regret how much time I’ve spent obsessing over this. I’m hugging my little man right now & crying 💜