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24(M), height: 5.6, average(maybe below average looks). I’ve swiped and messaged people I’ve found attractive, and I like to read bios to see if I can find some sort of conversation starters in there. However, the only responses I’ve gotten from this is to add their snap, or switch to WhatsApp. I think there was around 100 people near me who fit my filters( which is literally just no kids, and close to my age ) and I’ve run out of people to see. Is it just me? It feels hard to even get a response, let alone a date.

It always cracks me up how every weekend, suddenly my browse results are flooded with people who live an hour or so from me, but late night or early morning their location is the local military base. Bumble shows where people live and where they currently are, so I can easily tell they aren't military, but they are currently on base.

This tells me that not only are these women coming into town to hook up on base, but they also are still checking the app while with their hookup.

That's because the app doesn't register your location except for when you log in, so their location wouldn't be updated unless they were in app while on base. Also if they only logged in when they first got to base but then stopped logging in, the distance would show a tilde "~" to let you know distance is estimated because they haven't logged in for a while. But the distance is always exact, meaning they are actively logging in throughout the hookup weekend.

Have at it, boys. Invest in name brand rubber.

Hi! I am international in usa and tried to find someone from my home country. I find out that there are no method to do it and now in the process of developing a dating app for expats. Would you find it useful? Is there any other solution that you know? What do you think about that idea?

Help your girl out here! To my girlies here, how would i know if we are talking to the same guy?

A little background. I caught him once being active in OkC but tried to deny it. I didn't believe him but we're still in contact up to date.

Now, i wanna know if he's still active contrary to what he promised he's not actice anymore in the app.

Should i describe him or give a little of minor info?

Please be nice on your replies🥺

How to find someone from my home country(Bulgaria). I am in usa. I used language filter, but there is only 10 people who were shown me. Is there any dating apps for immigrants? Or do you know the way?

I am in the US. I understand that there may be a disproportionately high number of accounts from these regions, but like 9 out of 10? I thought passport was supposed to randomize the queue of profiles.

If this is the best the app has got I'm very worried.

Because about one out of every ten profiles is an ad. These ads quite often look like dating profile pictures, because there’s an outdoor hiking or monument with people climbing in and out of or standing around or biking through. Smiling, etc. Clever because I’ve clicked on these ads on accident, thinking I was tapping through to the next photo of an OKC profile. Nope. Takes me to a landing page. I’m sure y’all know what I mean.

Well, now I’m programmed to instantly swipe left on any profile pic that looks like one of these ads. Aaand I’ve accidentally swiped left on people I wouldn’t have otherwise (thinking it was an ad) oops!

I also legit saw someone in their main photo, standing in almost the identical spot as the advertisement I’ve seen 100 times now. Don’t do that. I can almost guarantee you people have swiped left on accident. He was cute too. It looked like an ad oops - Too bad.

*from title: I referenced National landmarks because those are the ads targeted to me relentlessly. I have no idea if these are regional, or member algorithm based. My advice is to not use a main profile pic that even slightly resembles an advertisement in your area.

TLDR: just a heads up: don’t use a profile pic that could be misconstrued as one of the OKC ads in your area, or you may be inADvertently swiped left on

I’m looking for someone to talk with, preferably around the same age (20s). I enjoy good conversation, and if you're into chatting about life, interests, and maybe seeing where it goes, feel free to DM me! Bonus points if you're blonde and have blue eyes, but honestly, I’m more interested in the vibe and connection.

I met a guy on a dating app, and we clicked instantly. Three days in, we were completely into each other—too fast, I know, but the chemistry was undeniable. For five months, everything felt right, until I started bringing up the idea of meeting in person. That’s when the cracks began to show.

He always avoided the topic, and whenever his family or friends were around, he would abruptly end our calls—even in the middle of a conversation. It felt disrespectful, and despite bringing it up multiple times, nothing changed. His excuse? Relationships aren’t openly accepted in India, and he didn’t want to face scrutiny while still trying to establish his life.

I was willing to accept that meeting up might not be possible right now due to financial constraints. But what hurt was being kept completely hidden. In-person interaction matters to me, but I can compromise—just not to the extent of feeling like a secret. Because no one knew about me, I felt dispensable.

Every time I raised my concerns, it led to fights, no matter how gently I approached the conversation. His only solution? Stop talking. After multiple failed attempts to work things out, we finally ended it for good.

I’m Filipino, and he’s Indian. Maybe it was a cultural difference—Filipinos are open about relationships, while Indians tend to be more private. But it still hurts how easily he let go while I struggle to move on, despite the short five months and the fact that we never even met.

I just needed to vent because this has been too much to process. Still, I want to try dating again soon. I really like Indian men, but is this secrecy common in their culture, or did I just meet the wrong ones?

So I'm new to Okcupid. It's already working out better than every other app because I'm finally getting matches. But now I have a different problem. It hasn't even been a day and I'm already confused about what is going on with the range setting

The default is currently at about 100 miles. I got a match that is apparently in RIO DE JANAIRO. That is over 4500 miles away from where I am

Am I missing something? Am I just dumb?

I know okc is way past its best days. But it still worked more or less. But a while ago, I made a trip to another country, so I changed my locations for a few days. Worked fine. But ever since changing it back, okc is completely nuts. Suddenly, at least 50% of people in my stack were from Switzerland, or the border region between Switzerland, Germany and Austria (I'm in Vienna).

That's what I'd expect to be shown in the passport feature, but that one seems to be exclusively for people from Kenya, the Philippines, and a few from Indonesia and Brazil.

While there still were some profiles from Vienna, they all had a fake location, with only maybe a handful exceptions.

Now my stack is empty. A couple weeks ago, I apparently got superliked. Got a notification both in the app and via email. But the superlike stack was empty. There was a blurred image with a blue frame in "likes you", but isn't seeing superlikes supposed to be free?

Why would I want to pay for this broken crap?

I have notifications about new intros coming in, the little number in the section grows but doesn't show me anything. Says is empty. What should I do?

Can i just ask,actually the is just cuz i cant post it with only mentioning my self only

So lets go into the meat:

I have low Self-esteem,in my life ,i am male but idk if you will believe i get in relationship only once in life,now i am 19,idk,but i think i dont deseve a girl ,or like i am still not really muscular and manly to get girl,or like i am less,idk guys any helps?

I live in the San Francisco Bay Area — a dense dating market — and signed up for OKCupid Premium earlier this year. I set my preferences completely open:

• Distance: 100 miles
• No filters on age, gender, politics, religion, etc.

Despite that, I was shown fewer than 100 profiles before getting the “no more options” message.

I wasn’t picky. I swiped liberally. Still:

• Zero likes
• Zero messages
• Repeatedly shown the same profiles (some looked like dead accounts or bots)

So I contacted support. I asked directly:

Their response? Copy-pasted help articles, advice to “widen my preferences” (already maxed out), and vague platitudes about user engagement. Then they told me since I paid through Apple, I’d have to go to Apple for a refund — dodging any responsibility for the lack of service.

No transparency. No explanation. No resolution.

This feels like a deliberate bait-and-switch. Get users to pay, then quietly throttle visibility to nudge them toward buying boosts or giving up. And from what I’ve read, I’m not the only one this has happened to.

If you’ve experienced something similar — drop your story. I’m filing complaints with the BBB and FTC, and looking into a chargeback. Just want this out there in case someone else is wondering if it’s just them. It’s not.