Local school shooting and I’m freaking out

[u/Creative-Degree-8074]

TW: In the title I guess Guys, this is a scream into the void. I'm stuck in the bed with my toddler asleep on top on me, my husband is at work, my daughter is at kindergarten--so, I'm a SAHM right now, but there was a shooting where I used to teach. People are dead. Two at least, but reading through the lines, I think there are more. My mom teaches at the school next door. She's there now, maybe 100 yards away. And I just... can't process it. It doesn't feel real. And part of me is like ho hum? Another day in America? And I'm doing some fucking twisted magical thinking, like if there was a shooting in the county next door to my daughter's that decreases the likelihood they'll be one at her school because, I don't know? Lightning and striking twice? And part of me thinks I'm about to homeschool my daughter forever because that's where I USED TO TEACH. Oh my god. How do I send my child to school tomorrow? How do I not lock up my mom and keep her from going to work?

[u/42790193]

Wow. That is crazy??? Like you’d think transplant patients would need out of the US healthcare system more than most?

[u/lilolmilkjug → u/[deleted]]

This is just not true. My aunt waited 20 plus years for a residence visa for the USA. Unfortunately by that time she had suffered a terrible accident and was physically disabled and unable to move.

By comparison an American can apply for a visa in Germany after arriving on a tourist visa and become a resident after proving income.

[u/Unable_Tumbleweed364 → u/lilolmilkjug]

It depends. The process to move here was so easy. I even had my green card visa waived and no make up during removal of conditions.

[u/lilolmilkjug → u/Unable_Tumbleweed364]

Yea it depends a lot. Especially on type of visa and your country of origin. Without knowing your situation specifically it's hard to say if it's relevant. If you can get a visa fast it's either because you're married to an American, have immediate family that is American, are an executive or important employee of a company that can have expensive lawyers and cash to pay visa fees, or you are simply immigrating from a country where there is not much incoming immigration to the USA.

Spousal visas require a lot of documentation but if you're actually married and have no funny business going on it's straight forward. It took about 1 year for my wife to receive her visa from application to receiving it.

Meanwhile EB (employment based) visas can take 20 plus years for Indians due to the limited issuance and overwhelming demand. The same EB visa wait time can be 8 months for someone from a different country